What a woman wears on a first date determines her interest level.

[Mazer]

I have noticed the women from OLD who dress up a bit for the first date tend to have higher interest than women who show up in jeans and t-shirt or old lady sweater. Some women just dont give a **** i guess. Last week I had a date point out she wore her new shoes on our date. I was a little out of her league so she made sure she looked extra sexy. I believe its a good way to gauge interest along with the other stuff. What are your experiences?

 

[Billtx49]

Her dressing well could be a sign of her insecurity, low self esteem, or loneliness also. It’s not an absolute factor, but the man does Not want to be under dressed in such situation, unless he can pull it off with confidence, etc…

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I prefer them not to dress at all tbh

 

[logicallefty]

I pay more attention to the height of the heels she's wearing.

Higher heels, higher interest.

A woman's thinking wearing heels is all wrong. She should not wear shoes that bring her mouth further from my c0ck cuz that's where it needs to be.

 

[user43770]

I pay more attention to the height of the heels she's wearing.

Higher heels, higher interest.

Not sure that this is a thing. But then, my first dates from OLD are always walks in the park. That way, I don't spend any money and neither of us feels guilty about bailing out after.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I dunno, I dress up for most dates and I've had plenty of girls dressed fancily that give me the cold shoulder.

I think it's more a "potential interest" signal with OLD. The level they dress to is the level they were interested in your online persona. If you don't seal the deal on the date by impressing them, though, it means nothing.

 

[user43770]

I dunno, I dress up for most dates and I've had plenty of girls dressed fancily that give me the cold shoulder.

I think it's more a "potential interest" signal with OLD. The level they dress to is the level they were interested in your online persona. If you don't seal the deal on the date by impressing them, though, it means nothing.

Right. If you're taking a chick out on the town, then obviously she's gonna wear high heels. I don't think the height of the heel makes a fvck, beyond whatever she happened to be feeling.

Though, I've noticed over the years that slutty chicks wear heels and more reserved chicks opt for something flat. Definitely something to take notice of for a potential LTR.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

If you don't think the height of a woman's heel is an extension of how sexy she feels or wants to appear, you're not paying attention.

If memory serves me correctly, there is actually some evolutionary biological reason for why heels are attractive, though the exact explanation escapes me at the moment. Basically a woman with arched feet has been considered "sensual" and feminine since pretty much ancient times. So heels are most certainly connected to how hard a woman is trying to appear "sexy".

I'm yet to get a girl to turn up to a date in knee-boots. But the long-term goal is knee-socks, I don't know why but I bloody love them.

 

[user43770]

You don't have to bring them "out on the town" for the heels to come out. I sometimes see women wearing them in places like the supermarket or the mall. First date drinks for me are usually done at a local place. Nothing special. But the heels still come out in varying degrees.

I have somewhat of a fetish for women's shoes. Nothing crazy, but enough that I often request they leave their shoes on during sex. It's something I pay close attention to, and one of the first things I notice when checking a woman out.

If you don't think the height of a woman's heel is an extension of how sexy she feels or wants to appear, you're not paying attention.

I often date conservative women from upscale neighborhoods who vote republican and worry nothing more than about looking like a slut to their neighbors, which is a rumor mill type of situation these women like to avoid like the plague. Even these women will still wear pretty high heels out on a date with a man they are very attracted to, even if the date is at a local Irish pub.

I went out with a woman like this a month ago and she showed up wearing these:

On our second date, she showed up in these:

We're going out to dinner locally and going back to her place early for some all night one on one. She knows my shoe fetish and specifically went out to buy something to "surprise me" with. I will bet my balls those heels will be the highest I've seen her in yet.

As @MoreThanSmooth said, they dress to the extent they are attracted to your persona, but you still have to close the deal. If you have women showing up in sneakers or flat sole shoes to a first date, you're not flirting enough with them.

Are you one of those 3 texts max, set up the date and then disappear until the date kind of guys? Probably has a lot to do with why you see sneakers and flat soles more often on those first dates.

Like I said, the majority of my first dates these days are at the park.

I get that women like heels when we go out. It makes their calves, thighs and ass look better. My point was that I don't think the height of the heel matters as much as how "cute" they think they look in them.

As for the women that didn't wear heels when we went out, they were the type that weren't trying to impress anyone, which was attractive to me. And if I was going to settle down, I would look for another woman like that.

 

[AriMamba]

I don't think it matters on IL but it matters to the individual woman imo

 

[marmel75]

Her dressing well could be a sign of her insecurity, low self esteem, or loneliness also. It’s not an absolute factor, but the man does Not want to be under dressed in such situation, unless he can pull it off with confidence, etc…

When it was below 70 out I used to go on dates with a tight thermal shirt, jeans, some nice shoes and a backwards baseball hat...and I killed it.

 

[user43770]

I get what you're saying, and to each their own. When I'm looking for LTR material, I look far beyond clothes and shoes. But I don't disagree with you, I just have my own approach and certain things become more or less apparent to me based on that. I tend to be very passionate and elicit certain responses from women that way, so by the time I actually meet them for a date, sexiness is usually more of a consideration than cuteness.

My only point is that shoes are an extremely important part of what a woman decides to wear, sometimes to the extent they will alter their wardrobe around them

My "surprise" is a pair of sexy shoes/boots of some kind. Shoes first.... wardrobe is often secondary.

I hear you, but I prefer my women in sandals, flip-flops or barefoot. It's sexier to me. Maybe it's because I live in Florida.