"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What a girl just said to me about sleeping with her male friend

The_Reaper

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"Me and my best friend, a guy, have slept together. But not because we were sexually or romantically attracted to each other, but because we were very comfortable with each other, so we decided to go for it"

(i.e. shagged him)

Your thoughts?

I have slept with this girl once before.
I might ask her a follow up question casually next time I talk to her (online), to see if they slept together many times, how they felt after, what about boyfriend and girlfriends, etc.

I find it interesting...
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kal0051

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I need to ask, did you mean that they had sex or just slept in the same bed?
 

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A rare girl indeed. She would make a good 'friend,' and nothing more.
 

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San Jose California said:
Tell her she's a moron who doesn't make any sense.
Well, a lot of girls are like her.

I've slept with female friends who would not date me, but would fvck me at the right place & right time. It's like stress relief or mutual masturbation to them.
 

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I've slept with acquaintances like that (sort of friends) but never with a female FRIEND, friend.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah you're right, that's what I meant. I don't have female friends with the true meaning of the word "friend".
 

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I think it's......very annoying.

Some girls just need to feel like they have a special bond with someone, and they think sex will achieve that.
 

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Haha, another episode of the chick RDF (reality distortion field).

Tune in next week.
 

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Check out this convo I had with a friend of a friend this afternoon. Mind you my coworker was sitting in my office and most of my statements are his words. I would have probably been a lot meaner and more honest with her about what I really thought.

3:28pmWarrior
even if it wasnt a date, you were going to have dinner with another guy...id be jealous and not to happy about it.

3:28pmInternetChic
why

3:29pmWarrior
why? why not? We are in a quasi-relationship and your going out with another guy...that would set off warning sirens for any guy in that situation.
is she shopping around? is she looking for someone else? why is she hanging out with him...
those types of thoughts would be going thru my head.

3:29pmInternetChic
because she's new in town and needs to make friends and typically despises chicks.

3:29pmWarrior
screw that.

3:29pmInternetChic
and because you're busy working on your own internal problems
it's your fault to begin with
or else i'd have gotten sushi with you.

3:30pmWarrior
that has no place in man logic, we don't believe in guy girl friendships unless one person (preferably the person not with our interest) is significantly ugly enough to be unthreatening
or gay.

3:32pmInternetChic
i'm bi?

3:33pmWarrior
the other guy..not you!

3:33pmInternetChic
tough fvcking shyt.
all my friends are guys.

3:34pmWarrior
thats always a red flag for me personally

3:34pmInternetChic
why

3:35pmWarrior
you know how guys are...

3:35pmInternetChic
not really.
i mean, i do
but i'm a tomboy
i don't do chicks.
i'll fvck chicks
but i barely even date the bytches.

3:36pmWarrior
them dudes are always orbiters, just circling until they can get up on it.

3:36pmInternetChic
and this is my fault?

3:37pmWarrior
nah..but if im dating you, i wouldn't like it.

3:37pmInternetChic
if you were dating me you'd have to be confident enough not to care.
because obviously, if i wanted to date one of them, i could.
but i'm not. i'm dating you.
i don't see the issue.

3:38pmWarrior
thats just not how the male mind operates. we don't see it that way.

3:39pmInternetChic
boys are dumb.

3:39pmWarrior
just being real. we see things yall dont see.

3:39pmInternetChic
you think i don't know that nearly all of my friends want to fvck me?
doesn't mean they want to date me.
the close ones know me too well to even be remotely interested.
this is why, when i'm not seeing someone, i fvck them.
gets it out of their system.


3:40pmWarrior throws hands in the air
LOL so she wants a guy who should be confident and can deal with the fact that she hangs out with a bunch of dudes that she fvcks when she's not in a relationship? ****ING RETARD. No wonder she can't find a man, she's a slut. Our good friend told me that she was a slut. She knows she's a slut and still just can't admit, she's a slut.

My boy wanted me to keep going, but I couldn't stand it anymore. I was biting my tongue the whole conversation. She's a good friend of a really good friend, so I left it at that. She wants to go out when she comes to town next month, and we are all suppose to hang out, it should be fun times. Fun times.
 

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I can bet that, in Warrior's example, the guys who fvck that chick aren't really her friends. They're just close to her to get some FB actions. I'm the same with the female "friends" I've banged. I'd care more about them than some random girls, sure, but they are not on the same friendship level as my close male friends. We may share fun times, but their (the girls') problems ain't my problems, whereas my boys know I've got their backs.

However, to those girls, their guy friends are real friends. Some are even considered close friends. It's not that hard. As long as you're not stabbing them in the back like their chick friends do (even the BFFs), you're a very damn good friend already!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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