"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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what a dic head

Clownpaint

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oh right, I'll boil it down

been hitting on a girl at school...
loads of negging (admittedly, little kino) ...
she laughed at everything I said and put my coat on for me and stuff like that etc...
on friday, I was kind of tired and had a **** day so I wasn't my usual effervescent self...
this afternoon (tuesday), she was in one of her precious, self-absorbed moods and instead of going with the flow and being fun likely she usually is, she resisted and twisted everything and turned it into a personal attack on her e.g.

Her: (openly) "Has anyone noticed anything different about him(pointing at me) ?"
Others on train:No, have you?/ what you saying? etc.
Her: Oh nothing
Me: (offhandedly, as I turn to look out the window) that's so annoying when girls do that (half smiling, half laughing)
Others: (agreed and laughed with me)
Her: Yeah that's right. I'm an attention-seeker, I'm annoying bla bla bla...

There was like silence for a few minutes before I said I'll take a guess at what she meant

Me: (Openly) I'm guessing it's because I'm new and in the first few weeks I was quiet and now I'm sitting here on top of the seat holding court, but that's just my judgement.

I then got off...

Now I'm stuck with what to do tomorrow...

I was thinking along the lines of the following:

1. calling her a **** head and punching her lights out like I wanted to (lol)

2. playing her games...pretending to be moody, only giving monosyllabic answers.

3. giving her a hug and telling her there's nothing to worry about or whatever and continue teasing her or whatever


many thanks in advance,

Donegan Buchanan
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just Ignore her untill she starts trying to talk to you again.
 

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UPDATE: I've just found out the following:

*she feels threatened by me because I made comments about Muslims and the way I said them was "vicious"
*I may have offended her
*Apparently, "I impose my views on other people" too.

So basically, she's scared of me.

Am I fcvked?
 

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sounds like she is actively trying to find flaws in you. if shes like this for much longer, i would move on and consider coming back later. or, on the other hand, you could tell her you dont hate muslims and clear that up. But as for the whole "imposing your views" cr*p, thats retarded. everybody has there ideas, and we openly state them. If you disagree, come up with a good reason. when people say stuff like that, they are either just being a b*tch, or cant think of a good reason to object to your idea, but they are pissed at you and want to disagree. As you can guess, that stuff really sets me off, so sorry.

personaly, if she doesnt improve, I would next her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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