"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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whaddya guys think of this...

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I haven't talked to my ex in about 5 months. My Dad went to a funeral this weekend that happen to my ex gf's - ex husbands brother (he was shot).

My gf had a conversation with my Dad and mentioned she would stop by (my parents house) and see my Mom. I found that odd, because she never visited before. She lives about 45-50 min away. You think she's trying to fvck with my head.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think you're reading too much into this? Isn't it too early to jumping to these conclusions?
 

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yeah, could be. to be quite honest, it's really not all that important. i'm not gonna change anything i do anyway.
 

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Maybe she just wanted to talk about ...nothing?

She could just be entertaining the thought about coming by...
 

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it's nothing man except a lot of talk.

Women talk a lot about this kind of sh#t.

Don't read anything into it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WestCoaster

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What do I think?

I think you ought to move on.

The biggest affliction on this board are guys trying to get ex back, wondering what ex is doing, strategizing against the ex (revenge or pleading to again get them back). My stomach is turning from all of it.

Look, most women aren't smart enough to know what they're doing or to strategize anything. They'll dump you if they have a bad hair day, get together with someone because it felt good at the time, go on a Carribean trip and get an STD and/or pregnant because it felt like the thing to do at the time. No rhyme or reason, so don't try to figure anyone out, especially an ex.

I think the DJ site needs to have an entire message board or articles on why obsessing about the ex is absolutely no good.

Move on.

* Thugo's post on pining for a woman five years married was the sickest AFC thing I've ever seen ... and I've done some pretty bad AFC things in the past.
 

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I wish I had a nickle for every time...

...I needed a nickle.



Did you miss something? The hour long complaint details in the middle?

This post says:

"whaddya guys think of this...
I haven't talked to my ex in about 5 months.
...stuff
...words
You think she's trying to fvck with my head?"

Forest through the trees.
Why would she waste two turds on you after not talking to you for 5 months?:kick:
 

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I'd just ignore the comment that was passed through your Dad. Don't let words mess you up - only actions have any meaning.

Make this a situation if she actually shows up at door - until then its just idle banter.
 
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