"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TurboLover

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MAN I WISH I KNEW THIS STUFF WHEN I WAS YOUNGER.

I've seen this many times on the forum, usually from older mature DJs. Even myself, I wish I knew this stuff when I was in high school.

OK, lets say I did know this stuff in high school. Wouldn't my worst mistake in the world would be not to act on it.

Guess what young juans, we got plenty of good sh*t here. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT? I not just talking about women here. There is a lot things here to help you become the best verison of yourself.

Its common to see this line after a DJ post some kind of sucess. Which means I went out and did something, and found out that it is really easy. Sh1t, f*ck, why did I even hesistate.

Have you ever been scared to do something. Lets say ride a rollercoster. I've had, but went ahead a did it, even though I was scared. (I think they call that being brave.) Got on, knees were shaking, almost threw up before it even got started. Well, when I left, I rode that thing at least 4 times.


Ask yourself this, would you go to college for 4 years and not go out and get a job when your done?

This site is a blessing, some will never get the chance to explore this stuff like this and will go through life miseriable.

Some of you guys know this stuff and are still chossing to be miseriable, then risk being happy.

Tick tock, tick tock, time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It will not wait for you. SO how will your journey be?

Quit existing and start living.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eternal

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Moved to High School Forum.
 

Vincent

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I live every day like its the last day of my life.

I know your not talking about people like me, but i'd figure i'd comment.

This site has changed who i am, its change how i acted, its changed i think, it changed how i talk to people.

Most of all it changed how i think of myself, and that changed me.

The man i am today is nothing compared to who i was 3 years ago. I was shy, meek and outspoken. Now i'm outgoing, courageous, and always heard.

Just some inspiration to those who are strarting the best journey you'll ever take.

:D

--Vincent
 

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Great post.

I guess the only logical explanation for those people who still are miserable even though they know exactly how to change is that they're too scared to change.

When you're so unsure of yourself and have never had confidence in your abilities before it's difficult to just flip a switch.

I mean face it.. sometimes when you're told EXACTLY what to do and it's proven to work.. you're still apprehensive about doing some things.

Luckily I've been able to establish some new confidence but I still find myself in awkward situations feeling scared to make a move. It's just a human reaction.

You gotta build yourself up from the ground up. Start small.. flirting with girls, meeting new people, improving your self image to the bigger stuff like getting numbers and dates.
 

Microphone Fiend

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Originally posted by Finch
You gotta build yourself up from the ground up. Start small.. flirting with girls, meeting new people, improving your self image to the bigger stuff like getting numbers and dates.
Just rambling, but starting small doens't always work to your advantage. Think about dipping your feet into a pool. When you find out it can be cold you start to think of the adverse effects (like bein freezing) and never go in or start to anticipate. On the other hand, when you just jump straight in you get that initial shock where you can't even breathe but you readjust and it becomes the norm, and when you get outta the water it feels unnatural.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TurboLover

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Doesn't matter how you get there as long as your trying. Hopefully you get to the same place, being a DJ.

As for jumping in the pool. I can still remember my first cold approach. She was hot as hell. Got the digits, waited a week, got a date. Totally blew it. Learned a lot.

There is NO SUBSTITUTION FOR EXPERIENCE. So wheather your approaching hot babes or going hoggin, your getting good practice.
 
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