"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WesCott's journey.

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Note : this post contains many of the same ideas as my other, however it they are elaborated.

This is my story, hope it inspires you.

Back in the day I was your stereotypical nerd. Bowl cut, glasses, interested in science, hell, I even had the pens in my top pocket, ready to make notes!. The kids at school took great delight in insulting me as they passed.
As the years passed I decided that I needed to change something about myself in order to avoid further misery. I cut my hair, looked after my teeth and general appearance. The insults died away and I became happier. However, I realised something was missing. Women.
I joined this site in 2002, under a pseudonym, and spent the whole time looking for the “magic elixir” or “golden script” that would enable me to talk to, and bed any woman that I chose.
After trolling through countless posts I found nothing. Nada. Zilch.

Discovery #1
There is no “golden scroll” that enables you to gain miss wonderful.

Women never found me ugly, but there seemed to be a continuing theme, as one woman put it “ you’d be nice looking, if you weren’t such a wimp”. Since she phrased it so nicely, I joined a gym and bulked up. Still, now that I was no uglier than any other boy, women were not interested! I being very analytical, watched the other boys (jerks) in their pursuits of women. Alas, I could not find a common theme, no scientific pattern!

Discovery #2
“Seduction” is not a science, there are no constants that appear in every pick-up.

I came to the conclusion that perhaps it was my persona that need working on. Therefore I looked up everything I could find about conversations, Neg-hits, C+F and speed seduction. Memorising patterns, whole conversations and the like. “Ah-ha,” I said to myself, “now I have the knowledge, no woman will be able to resist me”. I picked my target, her name was Francis, and laid down my “game”, to my ultimate surprise, Francis was interested, but my conversation still seemed to lack!, but what more could I do? I had memorised every thing from “conversation 101” and “conversation to her heart”. It was at this time that discovery #3 hit me………


Discovery #3
You can stay on SoSuave.Net for 3 years, absorbing every post that you come across, like some huge seducing sponge, but until you go out and gain EXPERIENCE you might as well still be in your AFC days. Don’t formulate a plan for god’ sake, “when she says X, I shall reply with Y”, it doesn’t work.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Part 2.....

The best DJ I ever came across on here (and shall remain nameless) gave me the best piece of advice, when I asked what he talked about with women. “Get woman?” he replied, “I use my instinct”.

Discovery #4
Listen to you instinct. It’s usually right. Don’t fluff talk. Walk off, come back later.

However, one thing was STILL lacking, I wasn’t a man. And who should help me out of this hole? Pook. Who else? I read “secret of the Jerk”, and realised that I should be sexual, rather than hiding it. In short I should be a man

Discovery #5
BE A MAN

To round off this post, getting to where you want to be in life takes determination, drive and dedication. Self improvement is dammed hard work, but the results far outweigh any misgivings you have now. Good luck, and happy hunting.

NOTE: I had this problem, friends getting in the way. The best advice I can give you in this situation, is cut them out. Move away.
 

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Deja-vu.
 

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wes i seen your other post and i have to say me and you were alot alike with our pasts....and our lives are similar today...it seems as though when we both thought there was no light at the end of the tunnel...we turned on our flashlights. and found the truth to why our love lifes were so bleak.

props to wes
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah. it didn't take me long to discover seduction is about, what you have on the inside, and how you can improve it. Not about getting it right, all the time.
 

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I'm still pushing the message. So BUMP
 
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