"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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We're still friends right? RIGHT?

LostAndConfused

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Just got out of another relationshït - already moved on the day we broke up, hooked up with a bunch of other plates, was expecting to never talk to this girl again, but she keeps texting and messaging me asking if we are still friends.

I don't play that "just friends" bullshït - if you drop me, I drop you. What should I say back to her?

I don't care for her but at the same time I don't want to burn that bridge, she would be an easy hookup, you know.....I've made the mistake with ex-girlfriends completely burning the bridge, it's not for me, because usually their friends want to hook up with me too.......if I burn the bridge with her I burn it with all her friends.

any advice?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HoneyHitter

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Don't bow 4 *****

LostAndConfused said:
I don't care for her but at the same time I don't want to burn that bridge, she would be an easy hookup, you know.....I've made the mistake with ex-girlfriends completely burning the bridge, it's not for me, because usually their friends want to hook up with me too.......if I burn the bridge with her I burn it with all her friends.

any advice?
Forget about not burning bridges. Ignore her and forget about her girlfriends. Go out and enjoy yourself with other people. Some time later those girlfriends will recognize you somewhere at a club/party and you'll approach them. Don't bow for pvssy.
 

handle

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Don't burn the bridge, just leave it be. You broke up so it's totally legitimate to give some sort of reason for not hanging out with her as friends ("I need space," "I think it's a little early for that," and so on and so forth.) No need to just cut all contact. This way you still get to essentially ignore her as long as you like while staying neutral standing with all her contacts.

The way I see it there's very few times in life that call for burning the bridge. It's remarkably easy to take a moment, offer an explanation (even if it's a little white lie), and then continue living your life. Why should all your peripheral social contacts be cut off?
 

Allurre

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handle said:
Don't burn the bridge, just leave it be. You broke up so it's totally legitimate to give some sort of reason for not hanging out with her as friends ("I need space," "I think it's a little early for that," and so on and so forth.) No need to just cut all contact. This way you still get to essentially ignore her as long as you like while staying neutral standing with all her contacts.

The way I see it there's very few times in life that call for burning the bridge. It's remarkably easy to take a moment, offer an explanation (even if it's a little white lie), and then continue living your life. Why should all your peripheral social contacts be cut off?

He said it best. Better to ignore rather than light in aflame. Always try to keep things in good standing order with your ex. You never know when she may offer you a huge business proposition :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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