"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Went to my first college party

Bling

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What a bust. People just sat there and did nothing. I'm at Florida State, btw.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334

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My first party sucked too. I remember leaving early, before any of my friends did... because I felt sad and lonely.

Don't feel discouraged though, in my four years at college I have been to some of the most kickass parties imaginable.

They're hit or miss.
 

mtlwlu

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As long as you dont have to drive, get drunk and play drinking games, they help.
 

ElStud

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Well lol at parties you can't rely on other people to have fun. In the end, it's YOU who decides whether you personally have fun or not.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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Most people are disappointed when they attend a college party because society is constantly feeding us the image of the "amazing party" through movies like American Pie Beta house and it's completely unrealistic. Once in awhile there will be a lot of fun but usually people just sit around glad that they are not alone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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