Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Went out and met a girl

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So yesterday I decided to went out with a friend to a party. And as some guys her adviced me to meet new women I tried it.

I've met a 18yr old and enjoyed that party with her. Have to say that it was good kissing someone after my break up. She showed a high interest level and we had such a great night.

I had some drinks (something I feel a bit guilty about), but I think in that situation I would not do much without drinking something. So I got some whisky and drink it with my friends. Hope to get back my goals of no alcohol again.

Had a great time talking with that girl. She was that kind of nerd girl and we talked about some stuffs I didnt imagine to talk to a girl on a party like star wars and stuffs like that. Also the kissing was great, we started kissing and she got hot and I was crazy about taking her to my bed.

I still have that kind of sad feeling after broke up but it less than the other days, and it was really good meeting someone that showed a genuine interest and desire. She is not from my town, but maybe I can have another date with her.

I just want to be able to go out and do not feel that need to drink. Idk if its ok to allow myself to have some drinks when going out... But it happened.

Today Im thinking to go to the cinema and watch a movie. Like a solo went to cinema and enjoy a good movie.

Slowly I think I will be able to get over that ex and be fine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You will get over it and you’ll be fine. You proved to yourself that interested women are plentiful. Just keep doing what you’re doing and let a little more time pass. Soon that relationship will have no effect on you.
 

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You will get over it and you’ll be fine. You proved to yourself that interested women are plentiful. Just keep doing what you’re doing and let a little more time pass. Soon that relationship will have no effect on you.
Thanks man! And interested women are really plentiful... Its a very good feeling.
 

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"Im so sad my ex broke up with me. All I have left is hot 18 year old girls throwing themselves at me. Life is so hard"

Just joking bro. U know Im really glad for you. Keep it up. Also, nothing wrong with drinking socially.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wow. That was quick. I think you will be just fine.....
 

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Wow. That was quick. I think you will be just fine.....
That was good man. I had a long time to think about all that happened and the more I stay alone/single the more Im feeling better.

My conclusion was that I ignored some initial red flags and it happened all that mess. She didnt like me the way I thought and also never truly respected me based on her behaviors.

Had my mistakes too and Im taking this as a learning.

Working out constantly and Im meeting new plates. So things are flowing quite good. :)

Thank you for all your support man!
 
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