jackreacher20155
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should I say Happy Ny?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Went NC and she's said Merry Xmas
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
logicallefty
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I agree, ignore it. She is probably wondering what you are up to but doesn't want to flat out ask you that. Whenever people I like send me "Merry Xmas" I reply "Happy St. Patrick's Day to you too".. When people I don't care about send it, I ignore 100%.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bingo-Player
Master Don Juan
ignore this is the first test of many
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
I'm assuming she sent the merry xmas text 8 days ago on christmas?
And you're wondering if you should send a "happy new year" text a day after new years? Seriously...
You need to get out and meet other women; or get a hobby more occupying than women. Continue to ignore her and move on with your life.
And you're wondering if you should send a "happy new year" text a day after new years? Seriously...
You need to get out and meet other women; or get a hobby more occupying than women. Continue to ignore her and move on with your life.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thorninmyside
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Ignore. It's no longer your business to care about what kind of year she has.
jackreacher20155
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But isn't rude of me not to wish her happy new year because she wished me merry Xmas?
I did wish her merry Xmas back and we small talked for a while then she went silent.
I did wish her merry Xmas back and we small talked for a while then she went silent.
clicheusername20
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No, you move on for your sake, not for hers. You don't care what she might perceive as "rude," you're moving on for you.jackreacher20155 said: