"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well, this was wierd

slitherjef

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I was a in a decent mood today, dispite getting like four hours of sleep. I decided to try and be a bit more sociable at work, especialy with the women that I find attractive. You know, to chat with, get over my shyness and just used to talking to them. Also talked to a couple customers. Nothing major but better then nothing.

Anyway on with the wierd stuff. Well, wierd to me at least. It actualy starts a couple weeks ago. This girl who works there I have seen every so often, comes backs and chats with my boss. I usualy toss in some sarcastic remark here and there. One day I got her to scream and laugh because I was in the back screaming being funny. So, I have not really had any direct chatting with her. One day I went up to the breakroom to ask my boss something and she was sitting next to him. She saw me, I saw her, I gave her eye contact and held it while talking to my boss. She was looking at me with her head turned, so it was not face to face. I held contact for five seconds or so then broke away and went on my way.

Im feeling okay, hey, I actualy held eye contact! A bit later she passes by the back room, going a route she don't really take. Then again. Then later. And a again. So I see her pass by my back room a hand full of times. I think nothing of this.

Fast forword a little bit, Its a saturday she is board and was talking to my boss for a good hour. I make a couple remarks asking what she was up to, she said she was bored and wanted us to entertain her. I told her my services where not free, to which she replied, "I'm not going to give you money"

I proceed to go back to work. A little bit later she comes up to me while I am working on the sales floor and I make some small talk. "Still bored, eh?" she said yeah. Then I tell her I am going to put her to work. She is like okay, then runs off to talk to some one else.

I keep working. A bit later I run into her in the back room and she asked where the work was. I told her not to worry about it, I could not find the rack I needed for the work and something else was broken anyway. A bit later I see her headed out the door and gave her a, "headed home already?" she said yup.

Then I dont see her for like a week. When I see her, she has a bit of an attitude toward everyone. What ever.

Tonight it got a bit wierd. I see her walking toward me so I said, "Whats up, her name" this would be the first actual real talking I have done with her.

She stops and turns and gives me this wierd ass look, like WTF!? I said, "what? I can't say 'whats up' to some one?" she gives me this attitude, said "no..." I said, "okay then" and proceeded to walk way, when she finished up talking saying like, "...thats harrasment" the way it sounded, it was semi serious. Then I thought, there has never been really anything I have said to her that could be taken as harrasment. I kept walking thinking what ever. Not sure what to think of that comment and her attitude.

A short time later, like 15 min I go on break and see her in the break room. I pay no attention to her, she is chatting on her phone and I make my sandwich, mic it and go sit in the other room and eat, like I normaly do. A few minutes later guess who comes into the other room and sits down on the side of the table facing me? It was her. She was still talking on her phone. I pay her no attention. I found it a bit odd though :crazy: Which leaves me to believe that whole harrasment thing was her being sarcastic and that attitude thing, well I don't know. But what ever.

Do I want this girl? I don't know
Im just trying to be more sociable

I just found this rather strange. And no, this is NOT the hot mom
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is she super hot?

The hotter they are the more socially calibrated they are.

Sounds like a bunch of sh!t tests to me.
 

slitherjef

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Lust said:
Is she super hot?

The hotter they are the more socially calibrated they are.

Sounds like a bunch of sh!t tests to me.
Hey lust

I would not say she is super hot to me I would say she is more cute then hot if that makes sense. I would say a solid 7 she has a really nice ass. From what I understand she is only 18 so that is one one reason that I am not sure if I even want to try anything. Not that I give a rip what people think she is legal but still people talk.

I'm just going to be my self around her. not going to make any real attempt to get her
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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