"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well, on a slightly positive note...

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There is this girl I met from school who I have been talking with, met her through some other people I know, and upon talking to her online, I asked if she has any single freinds, she has a bf, so I am basically in the freindzone, does it bother me? no. would i do her? yeah. so I asked if she had any single freinds, she said no. All her single freinds are guys.haha. I sense a few things here, well, she mostly has guy freinds, I wonder if she just an attention seekerk, but yet upon talking with her, I see we do have alot in common. So my question is, did I ask too soon about the single freinds thing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Flabbergasped?

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Wow

Just get off this website
 

Dannyrt34

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dude stop analyzing everything! You're driving me mad!
She's a FRIEND, use her as practice talking to women, but that's it. Now go the fvck out of your house, talk to new women, just say a few hi's to ppl you pass by, that's all I ask to get you started. Then post how things go. Seriously, when can you get started? Apparently you're not going to do shlt on your own, so we'll give you assignments on a weekly bassis.
 

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I wouldn't have asked if she had single friends personally. If she'd have offered, that'd be one thing, but never ask. It comes off as desperate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I can't. the only time I do is when I am either sleeping,or on the computer really. I am always thinking. could be good,could be bad.
 

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dude screw that id BURN THE MOTHA F U CKIN BRIDGE WITH HER. GET AS SEXUAL AS YOU CAN, PREFERABLY WHEN SHES DRUNK. F UCK IT YOU DONT CARE ALL YOU WANNA DO IS BONE WHO CARES ABOUT BEING FRIENDS WITH HER

I DONT HAVE VERY MANY FEMALE FRIENDS BECAUSE 1.) ALL THE GIRLS I TALK TO I WANT TO BONE 2.) THE ONES THAT I _AM_ FRIENDS WITH I HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG TIME AND ARENT THAT CUTE BUT HAVE CUTE FRIENDS
 

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Do you realize that this is a self-improvement forum? Some are here to improve their lives, some are here to give advice and help those who are in need of improvement, NOBODY SHOULD BE HERE TO WHINE! Don't come on here to complain about how shltty your life is!

Take this advice
Start a thread that says "I need to improve my confidence and social skills, but I don't know where to start. Give me advice and missions to help me get started, I'll post my progress as I go along." Then use ONLY that thread and keep at it. Stop your complaining it's really getting you NOWHERE!

If you do what I just said, you'll see that there are alot of us willing to help you out. Seriously stop complaining about your life and start trying to make it better. I don't wanna hear "Oh I feel like I wasted too much time."

GET STARTED NOW, don't waste any more time. I want to see you TRY, AND WORK HARD TO BE A BETTER PERSON. Start that thread, and we'll be there and be able to help you out alot. We can't help somebody who only complains.

Later down the road, you can look and read through this thread, and you'll be able to see how much you improved. SERIOUSLY START NOW!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dannyrt34 said:
If you do what I just said, you'll see that there are alot of us willing to help you out. Seriously stop complaining about your life and start trying to make it better. I don't wanna hear "Oh I feel like I wasted too much time."
I agree. It's sucha usless excuse, because just thinking about it, that's wasting even MORE time!

"The great French Marshall Lyautey once asked his gardener to plant a tree. The gardener objected that the tree was slow growing and would not reach maturity for 100 years. The Marshall replied, 'In that case, there is no time to lose; plant it this afternoon!'"
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
I can't. the only time I do is when I am either sleeping,or on the computer really. I am always thinking. could be good,could be bad.
Thats just it... you can... you cant think about shutting your mind off, you just have to do it

I suggest reading F**ck it - The ultimate spiritual way by John Parkin.

Seriously... F**ck it... all of it.

Bend life over the counter and lay some motherf***n pipe!
 

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Capedcrusader, post more sht like this, based on an actual interaction with a girl, instead of your usual stream of consciousness crap

this is the only post I've read where you actually DID something

it was a step forward
 
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"dude screw that id BURN THE MOTHA F U CKIN BRIDGE WITH HER. GET AS SEXUAL AS YOU CAN, PREFERABLY WHEN SHES DRUNK. F UCK IT YOU DONT CARE ALL YOU WANNA DO IS BONE WHO CARES ABOUT BEING FRIENDS WITH HER

I DONT HAVE VERY MANY FEMALE FRIENDS BECAUSE 1.) ALL THE GIRLS I TALK TO I WANT TO BONE 2.) THE ONES THAT I _AM_ FRIENDS WITH I HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG TIME AND ARENT THAT CUTE BUT HAVE CUTE FRIENDS"

Well,that's it, I would never take advantage of drunk girls, nor could I see myself going home with someone from a bar, I more or less have always believed in commitment and monogamy. That's what I have always wanted, even if it just one person, if all turns out right, that's good by me. I don't or never really had even many female freinds. So that is not really an option either.
 

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Dude I want you to do one thing yell out loud "I Have No Balls". It's funny to me how you want to shut your mind off yet you always have these questions that will lead to more thinking and more questions.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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CapedCrusader is now the post pathetic guy on sosuave.

This is an accomplishment because you have to really TRY hard, and work hard daily on becoming THIS pathetic. Quite an achievement if you ask me.
 
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