That I think it has pretty much been a fear of rejection holding me back. Cause in my mind, in order to get that hot girl, that 7,8,9,10, well, thats what you have to be. You have to be this ideal in order to suceed. Am I wrong on this at all? I mean, it probably stems from either too much time spent alone, or bad negative experiences in the past. I mean, all this time could have been put into learning and recognizing the signals as they say. But no, I chose to stay home and watch porn. It's weird, I work a retail job where I probably talk to hundreds of women per week. You'd think I would be over this.