"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Welcome to hell...erm, college
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
imnexthere
Don Juan
DAMMIT!......Trade school here I come.
Keep the posts comming guys.
What exactly do you mean by this? Do you mean screw you over in terms of girls?
so where exactly did you go when you left your dorm?
How did it just wear off? Did you not enjoy the rewards?
how did you deal with this? this sounds pretty bad.
btw keep it coming
it wore off because i had only created an instantenous and short term change. I changed from the shy guy to extremely outgoing host-like life of the party guy. That was all very great but i soon changed back after the first few weeks. lesson to be learned: change can only happen if you make it consistent; you can't take a little break from it and expect to be that different person again; you won't be.
i did enjoy the rewards, but i felt more comfortable in my old state of living
crazy, you should elaborate on this one.. i know there are too many guys who think it is easier than chinese prostitutes.
How did i deal with that? I called her up and said "Sorry for my actions, i was thinking you wanted more". And to the guy who wanted to start sh1t with me becuase of this, i bascially told him to leave me alone.
One thing is great- hot weather+college girls. So much ass it is scary. Im rollerbalding right now and damn it is hard to keep the eyes on the road
time to call up some chicks to play tennis with.. peace.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
When someone gets to college, they will look around and go "look at all these hot girls! I'm getting some ass from a fine chick soon!" Come day two, you'll go "man, why aren't these girls flocking to me?" Because they either:
- Try and study to get through college quickly
- Already have boyfriends
- Are a certain fraternity's sweethearts (see: fraternity whore)
Yes, girls will be around and be open to you. Just don't expect thier legs to be open 24/7.
i just had a few questions tho..
some of u say that you became the leader of ur groups and the guy that everyone wanted to talk to right away...how did u do all of this?? im gettin a lil nervous about making friends in college
also..any more tips that u can give during orientations? i think i have an overnight stay sometime in june (a few months before college starts)
thanks!
To become the leader of your group, you just have to make friends and take control. Making friends is easy in college if you just talk to people. Besides, that fear is something everyone goes through.
Pay attention during orientation. You don't want to get lost going around campus trying to find a class. Plus, don't hesitate to talk to people and try and make some friends then.
That is what i did for mine. We had like 8 people in our group, all cool open guys. WHen we went bowling, chicks just started coming over to us.. Then we went to our rooms and started mooing girls in the building across from us. You could drink, but i woudnt advice it, you gotta be a major dumbass to get a minor during orientation.
I dont mind being a leader, but that is not what im after. I enjoy being a cool open guy who eveyone can talk to and have fun with. When i go to parties, i see who is doing something fun, then i start doing it with them ( One party some people were playing a game where u bang on the table and then yell "Now drink mother****er, drink mother****er, drink". I asked for the rules, then joined in. The rest of the crowd sat there wondering what the hell were we doing...
Get to know the owner of the party house, or the host. Get in his good graces. This is very good for future benefits.
Some general stuff:
Never talk trash. About anyone. You never know who is friends with who, and what will happen. ( i was once in a frat party, called one chick fat, she was gf of one of the guys... i almost got my ass kicked, had to walk home)... lesson learned. Keep your mouth shut, like confucious said :
"A true gentelman only points out the good qualities in a man, a weak man only points out the wrongs".
If you live in the dorms, find people to hang out with, it isnt hard at all. There are many clubs here, like ultimate freesbie, rollerblading, intramural sports, all sorts of fun.
Just remember- people are generally good, so dont worry when you start talking to someone and they walk away. Move on, life is too short to worry about idiots.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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As for the girls being "easier" in college... I see little difference between girls in college and High School in terms of "easiness"... to me... a lot of the rules still apply. There are still "groupies" in college, then there are sweethears (that Crazykid mentioned) and stuff like that. Yeah... you can get your fare share in college, but guys who are in groups (like fraternities) and sports, will get more than the average joe, just like in High School.
Lastly to the poster above me: I will say it like this and you be the judge. Police (I mean campus police) in general turn a blind eye when it comes to drinking (I mean let's face it... only seniors in college are twenty-one... and probably do the least amount of drinking) and I have been to plenty of fraternity parties (I am sure Crazykid and Oxide could vouch for this) that have had the beer and liquor flowing everywhere. However, get rowdy and disorderly... and it can be lights out. Also important is this... campus police may turn a blind eye... but regular cops will not.
Here is a tip- dont want to smoke weed? Dont. I personally hate the smell/taste. It makes me want to puke, but i did get high for a week once, then i said "fvck this sh1t" and quit it. havent done it in 5 months.
Drinking- you can drink all you want in your apartment, who is going to care? They do in dorms, but if you are smart (hide it) then who cares. MAke sure your roommate is cool with it, i know one kid who ratted out his roommate, and cops made him pour out 48 cans of beer out....
Cops will probably be very strict and give tickets out right and left the first 2 weeks of school, to scare you. be careful. Remember, you dont have to drink to have a lot of fun. Hell, espeically when it comes to girls, dont drink and then wake up next morning saying "oh crap, i didnt do it with this Ugly chick, did i?"
Now when people yell "cops" at the parties, we all just walk out... remember= WALK STRAIGHT. i once fell down in front of dorm director while walking by him. Captain morgan aided me there.. i got lucky.
next?
edit... oh ****, can someone please fill them on this "citizen's arrest" i had that bs pulled on me once.. ill write but i m too hungry now.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
imnexthere
Don Juan
Then again at a school I visited they didnt give a damn about computers. Some students didn't even own one.
So it all starts at orientation huh? Cant wait; I just registered.
Oxide,
Who tried to put you under citizens arrest? Campus rent a cops/ RAs or just some student. If its a student Id tell em to **** off. Campus police however are permitted to act as agents for whoever holds the actual deed to the land the campus sits on. This means they can toss your ass out of places. BUT (this is a big but) the state you are in may allow trained rent a cops to be Special Police Officers which means they may actually have real arrest authority on campus. I know in Maryland this is allowed and certain mall secuity guards can actually arrest you and the charges will stick. Hope that helps.
)so fvck that, buy a laptop if u need one, otherwise desktop is fine.
we got busted by 2 campus secuirity guys, who put us under citizen arrest, and said we have to sit on the curb till cops come. If we run they will mase us. the only reason we stayed was because of 2 chicks who were with us, they coudnt run for sh1t.
some fvck tells you that you are under citizen arrest, you tell them back "well, fvcker, you are under citizens arrest too, watch me run.."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BigBrent: Maryland? You from around there? I am and I couldn't wait to get out. Going to be back for the summer though. If you are taking some classes at HCC during the summer, hit me up.
who wants to party this summer, and what plans u guys have?
p.s. what grades did everyone finish with?
i remember a post by some dude who said he got too concerend with girls and failed college.. i was afraid i was going to follow his steps when entered school, well fukk that ****, hi good GPA.
Summer school to take some classes to help my gpa.Originally posted by Oxide
my year is over *****es, i win
who wants to party this summer, and what plans u guys have?
p.s. what grades did everyone finish with?
i remember a post by some dude who said he got too concerend with girls and failed college.. i was afraid i was going to follow his steps when entered school, well fukk that ****, hi good GPA.
Grades - F, FA, N, and an A
imnexthere
Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.