The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DAMMIT!......Trade school here I come.If you think college is nothing but easy *****...Guess again.
What exactly do you mean by this? Do you mean screw you over in terms of girls?A lot of your friends WILL look out for you. Not everyone is out to screw you over like High School.
so where exactly did you go when you left your dorm?When meeting people, and there was a LOT of people, for class tours and whatever, I would make a great effort to become the host. I would start up the convos, the introductions and the outgoing nature in the group. This was so damn important because it led to my first 10 friendships being formed, 2 of which are best friend-friendships. In the dorms, i would never stay in my room for more than ten minutes at a time, because that would be shutting myself off from all the socialising.
How did it just wear off? Did you not enjoy the rewards?sadly, this whole behavioural change wore off and i soon reverted to my old not-so-outgoing ways. damn, changing yourself can be tough.
how did you deal with this? this sounds pretty bad.OXIDE said: - came to my door giving me "you tried to rape her" ****
crazy, you should elaborate on this one.. i know there are too many guys who think it is easier than chinese prostitutes.If you think college is nothing but easy *****...Guess again
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
When someone gets to college, they will look around and go "look at all these hot girls! I'm getting some ass from a fine chick soon!" Come day two, you'll go "man, why aren't these girls flocking to me?" Because they either:Originally posted by Oxide
crazy, you should elaborate on this one.. i know there are too many guys who think it is easier than chinese prostitutes.
I feel this way often and i sometimes do it more then I want to, espeically when something goes wrong.i did enjoy the rewards, but i felt more comfortable in my old state of living
To become the leader of your group, you just have to make friends and take control. Making friends is easy in college if you just talk to people. Besides, that fear is something everyone goes through.Originally posted by dip
great post everyone...lets try to keep it up!!
i just had a few questions tho..
some of u say that you became the leader of ur groups and the guy that everyone wanted to talk to right away...how did u do all of this?? im gettin a lil nervous about making friends in college
also..any more tips that u can give during orientations? i think i have an overnight stay sometime in june (a few months before college starts)
thanks!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Summer school to take some classes to help my gpa.Originally posted by Oxide
my year is over *****es, i win
who wants to party this summer, and what plans u guys have?
p.s. what grades did everyone finish with?
i remember a post by some dude who said he got too concerend with girls and failed college.. i was afraid i was going to follow his steps when entered school, well fukk that ****, hi good GPA.![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.