"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Weirdest thing happened today...

theunflushables

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I am an aspiring photographer and got this girl I used to work with to be my first model. When we use to work together we would joke around and have a good time but nothing sexual as it was work. But since, I am no longer there, its time to pounce.

Anyways, she is in my bathroom with the door open doing her hair and getting ready for the shoot. I am standing out in the hall. She asks if she should try on anything else and I tell her to put on the skirt. Without shutting the door she takes off her pants and is there in her thong, grabs the skirt and puts it on. Now, I'm stunned at what just happened and wonder if she just spaced out and forgot I was there. I told her the skirt didnt look good and to get back into the pants. She does it again!

It get me paranoid that I may be "one of the girls" to her but during the shoot and afterward she was giving off strong vibes. Could have kiss closed but she had a cold sore. Instead, I'm photoshopping the cold sore out. lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Be smooth man. Don't get riled up cause a chic changed clothes in front of you. Act like it happens every day. Just ask her to come by your place to hang out and see what she says. No pressure, no wolf staring at a steak look in your eye. Nice and casual. Then put the moves on her from there. Nice and easy.
 

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there's something very intimate about taking pictures of a woman one-on-one...

it's instant comfort... and no matter what - instant tension...
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the cold sore thing would have bothered me too... so i can understand how that would hold you back... much better that you didn't kiss her and catch it!
 

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Warrior74 said:
Be smooth man. Don't get riled up cause a chic changed clothes in front of you. Act like it happens every day. Just ask her to come by your place to hang out and see what she says. No pressure, no wolf staring at a steak look in your eye. Nice and casual. Then put the moves on her from there. Nice and easy.
Oh, no I didnt get all bothered when she dropped her pants. I was busy cleaning a lens filter, I took a quick glance and went back to cleaning the filter without saying anything about it.

And I'm not riled up about it after the thought either. Just found it strange in a humorous way that this girl I havent really ever hung out with outside of work felt comfortable enough to change in front of me.

I am going to be giving her call tomorrow and see whats up for later in the week. Hang out then and see where things go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bukowski_merit said:
there's something very intimate about taking pictures of a woman one-on-one...

it's instant comfort... and no matter what - instant tension...
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the cold sore thing would have bothered me too... so i can understand how that would hold you back... much better that you didn't kiss her and catch it!
And yes, I noticed this too. I might have to start carrying my camera around more often. Hell, on the fourth of July it got me into a bar cover free. lol
 
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