"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Weird situation with girl at work, need advice, badly.

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I really like this chick from work, but she is straight from China, so I’m not too familiar with their culture. Well I told her in a conversation that I was getting a pass to 24hr fitness, she got one a few days later and asked me to go with her. Hey, she is interested, right? I also heard stories on how she talks about me a lot, all positive things. Well we went to the gym after work, for some reason I told her that I wasn’t interested in anyone at work (dumb mistake, not sure why I did that), she then changed her whole attitude. She automatically started talking about if I want to try dating her friends, she did not sound genuine about it. I think she was using this tactic, because I somehow subliminally told her I wasn’t interested in her, but I am.

I’ve used this tactic too, after getting rejected. Basically I did it because I wanted to pay it off, as if I was not interested in the first place. Catch my drift?

Anyway, I want to tell her how I feel and possibly date her. She is single. If I get rejected then I will look like a loser on trying to get with her friends. Plus we plan to go to the gym with each other 3 times a week, which will be really awkward. What should I do fellas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My Name is Nobody

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Just email her at work and say "We definetly have alot in common we should hang out sometime".. Then when she says it's cool set up a date!

This worked for me recently.

EDIT nevermind, I replied before I finished your whole post i see you already went out.
 
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Always pursue a girl who you fancy, romantically! Don't beat around the bush!
 
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