"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Bang 10 other chicks.Dayr0n said:
Fluke
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I'd be like, "Look I know something is going on you need to talk to me about it before I get the wrong idea". Doesn't mean she would admit to it if she did **** some other guy but it could be something completely harmless as far as it relates to you two. Just make her understand that it is important that she communicate with you and telling you nothing is wrong is insulting your intelligence. I'd rather the girl just say she didn't wanna talk about it.
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You can do what fluke said but based on my experiences it is best to do the "stealth approach" - send a programmed drone into her path and do some reconnaissance!!!! If you ever saw the cartoon with "Tweety bird" and the cat (old school) - you have to be like the cat that is sliding on the floor with his flattened body roaming about not making a noise to capture tweety bird in a moment of surprise!!!Dayr0n said:
Once you have more info then you start asking the questions when you know the answers - like a good lawyer does!!
If she knows you go to the clubs on a certain night then that would be the night to do some reconnaissance!!
It sounds sneaky but.... when a girl starts thinking and not saying anything then something is wrong!!!
Titty man, I don't think he's the player type!!
Oh check this out another thing is rounding my head she ironed her hair tonight before I picked her up.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Fluke
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If I actually think the girl is cheating on me or there is something else i want to know im not gonna be asking questions to give them hints until I'm confident enough that I can basically act like I know 100% and they usually cave in with whatever it is because I make sure to trap them. My memory is so damn good that months later I can remember tiny little details if the girl is ever talking about it again that sets off alarms if there are any changes.
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Hahahaha, this is getting too funny - you are not insecure just a little paranoid!Dayr0n said:
Hmmmmm, it is like a man who never wears cologne then starts putting cologne on and now the girl knows her man is seeing someone else!
You might want to ask Water Tiger this one - I never ironed my hair before.
Maybe the ironing is symbolism for ironing out some troubling issues!
NewMan
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Your not a mind reader, so stop acting like one.
Do what you do best - and thats be yourself.
Now, before you jump to all kinds of conclusion's, check for patterns. You bang every day, maybe it's just business as usual, maybe she's fvcking someone else, maybe she's stressed, maybe she thinks you are - and on and on and on.... what good does this do you?
she's not into sex tonight - she's thinking of something else - what's the first thing you do? - finish off, get your nut - then towel off and talk to her.
What I suspect is, that your getting into the next phase of a relationship. Things slow down sex becomes routine to some degree.... So Take a break from her - get some space and cool things down for a week or two and see what happens.
Also, at 22 - you should be readying another plate to being in as a replacement.
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If she's thinking about other stuff during sex, the sex is boring. Dayr0n, start doing some different stuff in the sack. Change positions, be aggressive, be gentle, use toys, eat her out, Variety! Variety! Variety! If you need a bit of help, go read Sir_Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques in the tips section.
A woman needs the excitement of not knowing what to expect when the two of you go into the bedroom. Sometimes only you will get off, sometimes only she will get off, sometimes you both will get off, sometimes only oral, sometimes no sex at all - just cuddling. Doing the same thing in the bedroom all the time is like eating pizza every day. It gets boring.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girls usually project their own flaws onto you and compensate for their own guilt.Last Man Standing said:
1) She suspects YOU of cheating...because SHE is cheating.
2) She is being extra-nice to you cuz she feels guilty that she cheated.
You really think she's thinking about her rents' possible divorce when you're boning? More like thinking of that OTHER GUY. If her attention has shifted away...it's generally to another GUY.
I'd be on the lookout for another GUY, cuz I see several red flags here for that.
Hmm, underage eh?Dayr0n said:
Apart from that, these appear to be signs of an approaching break-up. Not only did she mention being uncomfortable, but afterwards she was lovey-dovey and saying how much you mean to her, etc.. Women go through violent oscillations with their feelings when pondering if they want to be with you, and it never ends well.
On top of that, your gut is telling you something. Everytime in a relationship I got nervous and suspected that something was going on, guess what? Something was going on.
Of course I could be wrong. Regardless, be prepared for this as an outcome.
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^^ he has a really good point man, i've been with a few girls that cheat on their bfs and that's how they act. the BEST thing you can do is start distancing yourself. don't TELL her that you're going to distance yourself, just do it with no reason. she'll start to miss you. you gotta really discipline and not give in to the urge to talk to herwayword said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.