Weird first date experience?

[Lotus Effect]

I follow a format, 2/3 venues. Change of pace in each, escalate kino 2 steps forward 1 back, lets me judge her in every scenario and around other people. It also puts me as the leader. I make sure to listen, ask questions, get them laughing. Thats the good side of my game.

I said tell me what's up, she said "you lost you leadership and missed your bus"

Apparently not as much

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Apparently not as much

Ya let's take the woman's word for it lmao

 

[Datinglife26]

Apparently not as much

Oh look, it's the "non helpful im better than you" poster hahaha take a **** in your own hands and clap for yourself

 

[Lotus Effect]

Humbleness is a journey my friend.

It begins by realizing one’s own mistakes.

Also no reason in bragging on something that evidently haven’t worked.

I praised your initial assessment. But again, it is a long journey my friend.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Ya let's take the woman's word for it lmao

Cmon mate, you know they can sniff BS from a mile.

 

[Datinglife26]

Humbleness is a journey my friend.

It begins by realizing one’s own mistakes.

Also no reason in bragging on something that evidently haven’t worked.

I praised your initial assessment. But again, it is a long journey my friend.

I realise my own mistakes, that doesnt negate the start of the date I was leading. I already know it went sideways at some point towards the end.

I wasnt bragging, I just know im strong at making fun dates but I fail at cutting them short while on a "high".

That stings me more than just having okay dates that end okay.

Anyway, my plan is to reduce the length of time on dates once things are going well unless she is signaling that she wants to bang.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

If you're going on dates, showing her a good time and having a good time with it yourself, you're doing a lot of things right. Or you've got some obvious skill at it. While that might not be the issue, I've got the feeling you're over analyzing this and trying to figure it out like a puzzle or design concept.

The date didn't end the way either of you wanted it to. No big deal. Go after the next one and see how it goes. IF this kind of thing actually becomes a common occurrence, maybe there's something there. If it's a one-off happening, she's a dumdum pop.

 

[crowolf]

Maybe you did nothing wrong, and this is either:

1) A normal sh1t test from a bratty/princessy girl.

2) A sign that she would create drama out of nothing, just for some additional emotions.

 

[Datinglife26]

Maybe you did nothing wrong, and this is either:

1) A normal sh1t test from a bratty/princessy girl.

2) A sign that she would create drama out of nothing, just for some additional emotions.

I would probably class her as a bratty princess, shes 24, 8/10 (only had lipgloss on, no make up)
The youngest of 5 and the princess of her family who doesnt probably hear no a lot.

 

[Datinglife26]

If you're going on dates, showing her a good time and having a good time with it yourself, you're doing a lot of things right. Or you've got some obvious skill at it. While that might not be the issue, I've got the feeling you're over analyzing this and trying to figure it out like a puzzle or design concept.

The date didn't end the way either of you wanted it to. No big deal. Go after the next one and see how it goes. IF this kind of thing actually becomes a common occurrence, maybe there's something there. If it's a one-off happening, she's a dumdum pop.

Yeah thats true, Im pretty analytical about these things, always have been.

However being that way has allowed me much more success because after ive thought about things they become part of how i hold myself.

Its why I went from a virgin at 21 to having lots of date/hookups and recently a long term relationship.

I have to break this cycle because my family are all failed marriages and men who get walked over by their wives. I cant do that, id rather stay single than have a woman think she can walk all over me.

Anyway, appreciate the advise, ive done as much thinking over this as I should, im doing nothing, balls in her court but I honest dont care at this point too.