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What would be a good weight routine for a 13 year old? Free weights or what? And what pounds?
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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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You've been "getting ready" for two years.
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I disagree with Deisel in that your bones and joints are too fragile because sprinting and playing sports subject far greater demands on you bones and joints than weightlifting.Originally posted by littledude070:
What would be a good weight routine for a 13 year old? Free weights or what? And what pounds?
sprinting and sports do put stress on the bones and joints, but nothing like the shearing forces you put on the bones when lifitng. It's a different kind of stress, that's all.Originally posted by Eltosian:
I disagree with Deisel in that your bones and joints are too fragile because sprinting and playing sports subject far greater demands on you bones and joints than weightlifting.
But I do agree that you shoud start with bodyweight stuff first. Start with basics like pushups, hindu squats, bridging, situps/crunches, whatever. Once you become proficient at those, try handstand pushups and one-legged squats. If you get good at those, then you can try moving on to weights.
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http://www.intensitymagazine.com/03-12-02/nate_jeffers.htmlOriginally posted by DIESEL:
sprinting and sports do put stress on the bones and joints, but nothing like the shearing forces you put on the bones when lifitng. It's a different kind of stress, that's all.
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Uhh... I know the stress that weights put on you, the positive stress that is. I'm not talking about 2 pound Malibu Ken color-coded dumbbells, I'm talking about pure strength training.Originally posted by *new*:
if you are lifting 2 pound dumbbells then of course it will give you no stress. But if you are doing what experienced guys like DIESEL lift, then you will know the stress we are talking about.
I don't get your argument. You state that kids cannot lift weights, and that jumping will put more stress, so they should do basketball. Makes no sense to me.Originally posted by *new*:
Kids around that age cannot do those weights. So yes, jumping will put more stress for kids. At that age, they are better off playing basketball.
Not much likely. That's why he should learn proper form first, when the weights are light. This defeats your arguments of "stress" on the bones and joints.Originally posted by *new*:
how much weight can a 13 year old kid lift?
I am sure he can benchpress 400 pounds...
Why? I think kids should do sports, but they should train to keep in shape for their sports.Originally posted by *new*:
those kids should just do basketball or likewise sports