Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not that it wouldn't benefit but you can't really do a slow negative without losing a ton of weight on that lift.spesmilitis said:I think as long as you don't let you're self fall down it'll be alright. Stronglifts said here a while back that some exercises don't benefit from a negative motion like the BOR.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nope, look at elite powerlifters Dave Tate and Dave Gulledge dieted down. Or jonnie Jackson for that matter. They have waists proportional to their bodyweight and are powerlifters at elite level. I personally trained with 120 lbs on cable crunshes with no distended waist. Overeating and growth hormones distend the waste. So does getting really big. Basicly, the abs grows proportionally to the body just like arms and calves.Drum&Bass said:Your absolutely correct fireguy, I personally don't use weight when it comes to ab training (theres no reason for it). But when you use heavy weights for abs, they will get big, and look distended.
what exactly are you crying about I-tallion ?? If you want a big chest push big weight, if you want defined abs exercise them (big weight not-necessary).how is it different from the pushup debate? Oh wait, its the ABS...I forgot how much different of a muscle it is compared to other muscles in my body.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.