Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not that it wouldn't benefit but you can't really do a slow negative without losing a ton of weight on that lift.spesmilitis said:I think as long as you don't let you're self fall down it'll be alright. Stronglifts said here a while back that some exercises don't benefit from a negative motion like the BOR.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nope, look at elite powerlifters Dave Tate and Dave Gulledge dieted down. Or jonnie Jackson for that matter. They have waists proportional to their bodyweight and are powerlifters at elite level. I personally trained with 120 lbs on cable crunshes with no distended waist. Overeating and growth hormones distend the waste. So does getting really big. Basicly, the abs grows proportionally to the body just like arms and calves.Drum&Bass said:Your absolutely correct fireguy, I personally don't use weight when it comes to ab training (theres no reason for it). But when you use heavy weights for abs, they will get big, and look distended.
what exactly are you crying about I-tallion ?? If you want a big chest push big weight, if you want defined abs exercise them (big weight not-necessary).how is it different from the pushup debate? Oh wait, its the ABS...I forgot how much different of a muscle it is compared to other muscles in my body.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.