Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not that it wouldn't benefit but you can't really do a slow negative without losing a ton of weight on that lift.spesmilitis said:I think as long as you don't let you're self fall down it'll be alright. Stronglifts said here a while back that some exercises don't benefit from a negative motion like the BOR.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Nope, look at elite powerlifters Dave Tate and Dave Gulledge dieted down. Or jonnie Jackson for that matter. They have waists proportional to their bodyweight and are powerlifters at elite level. I personally trained with 120 lbs on cable crunshes with no distended waist. Overeating and growth hormones distend the waste. So does getting really big. Basicly, the abs grows proportionally to the body just like arms and calves.Drum&Bass said:Your absolutely correct fireguy, I personally don't use weight when it comes to ab training (theres no reason for it). But when you use heavy weights for abs, they will get big, and look distended.
what exactly are you crying about I-tallion ?? If you want a big chest push big weight, if you want defined abs exercise them (big weight not-necessary).how is it different from the pushup debate? Oh wait, its the ABS...I forgot how much different of a muscle it is compared to other muscles in my body.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.