"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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so i asked this girl out for saturday, but she works late so it wasnt really going to work. She counter offered for wednesday night, which seems like an odd night of the week to go out.

Do you think i should accept the wednesday night? or is she just giving me that so she doesn't have to waste a weekend night on a first date. I know some people say to only go on a first date during the week, NOT on the weekends. what do you guys think?

And also, what the he!l do people do on a wednesday night? Especially on a first date? We are both in college.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's wrong with Wedneday, she counter offered so she's interested. Treat it like you would if the date were on Saturday?
 
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Exactly, listen to "chinwaggler". You're in man, i would believe that shes busy, cause shes deff showed some interest is she gave you another time and date. Just charm her pants off like you would any other time.
 
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cool...plan is to go to a bar in the city...grab a drink and play some pool to give the date a little action!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lol i thought u was talking about a wedding date :p
but yea what difference does it make what day you see a girl, some people are busy on weekends some people are busy during the week it makes no difference really
 
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haha i can see what you mean bout the wedding date lol.

i dont know...i guess i was just thinking "she doesnt want to waste her time on me on a weekend night so she offered a random wednesday night". But i guess if she wasnt interested at all she wouldnt have offered that.

I'll be looking for that kiss close, but nor forcing it :)
 
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Well, why would you want to waste time with HER on the weekend? She hasn't earned that either.
 
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very good point sodbuster, and that is going to be my attitude from now on with girls. they have to earn it...
 
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99% of the times all my dates are on weekdays because of exactly that. I dont like to take up a friday or saturday night going on a date because i like to go out partying with friends instead, but no 1vs1 dates. Very rare exceptions have been known to be made though ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tryin 2 play said:
i dont know...i guess i was just thinking "she doesnt want to waste her time on me on a weekend night so she offered a random wednesday night". But i guess if she wasnt interested at all she wouldnt have offered that.

I'll be looking for that kiss close, but nor forcing it :)
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As someone else said, it is you who should be pushing for the weekday thing rather than her. If it's your first date, you have better things to do on the weekend than go out with some chick.
 
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yes you guys are 100% correct. This is going to be my mentality from now on...with her and any other girls i date. Ill def push for some more weekday dates before she earns the weekend haha. I like this.

ps things went great in case you all were wondering haha.
 
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