"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WE used to be a close friend!!! but i(male) like her now!!! HOW?

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Hmm...we used to be very close friend....we can tok bout everything.....
now i had find out tat i like her........but i just dunno wat to do?
we used to go out once a week but.....mostly....i call her out.....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have her stay the night and then ask her for a *******. That's probably what I would do.
 

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DonGorgon said:
Men and women can never be true friends... one or both end up wanting to F
This is something I only thought personally. This is always the case?

Edit: Nm. Bro you post a LOT.
 

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This happened to me before,3 summers ago.Anyways,You getting with her,not gonna happened.Your way beyond the friend zone,ya talk about everything so shes not gonna see you as bf material,you know too much.The best thing you can do is try to catch her when shes horny and try to fvck her.But as for a relationship,forget about it.And what Dongorgon and Sexual said is so true,Men and women cant ever truly be friends,its just a matter of time before one of you catch feelings.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Leaving the friend zone is sometimes possible if you're not deep into the friends zone. From what you're saying, you tell this girl everything and she tells you everything. That means she tells you about her boy friends and you tell her about other women (usually).

You are too far beyond any romantic possibilities. You will hear some say friends before lovers, but this only works out in the shallowest of friendships.

There are 2 reasons why this won't work :

Guilt
And lack of sexual tension

A woman feels guilty with herself for risking a friendship, just for a fling. She would rather keep a friend who she can talk to about other guys she's ****ing.

The 2nd and strongest reason is lack of sexual tension. If you've been friends with a woman for a long time and have shared intimate secrets with her, you have not sparked any sexual tension. And even if you did change your ways the chances are she will not respond favorably. You are her close friend who she spends her emotions on and she wants to keep it that way. If you do a total 180 and start hinting at anything sexual, she's going to run in the other direction almost juts as fast.

Society raises us to think that great friends become great lovers, but really great friends only feel the emotional side of a relationship. The sexual, physical side is left empty. Not left empty physically, but emotionally. Even if you did **** this girl and give her the best sex of her life, something in her mind tells her that it's not as great as having someone whom she doesn't know as well ****ing her. In a sense you've already shown all your insecurities to her, and she's shown you hers. Insecurities are the biggest turn off to women in the sack.
 

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harvard3 said:
Hmm...we used to be very close friend....we can tok bout everything.....
now i had find out tat i like her........but i just dunno wat to do?
we used to go out once a week but.....mostly....i call her out.....
First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.

As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breaths.

Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.
 
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Telos said:
First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.

As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breath.

Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.
Yeah, when I read this earlier today, I thought to myself wow the kid who won 5th place in the Special Olympics was able to stop eating his boogers for 30 seconds and register on this forum. I wonder how he actually registered did his mom help him.
 

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hmm....
i don understand ur first step...
bout the baby step??
can u give me some advice wats tat about?
 

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Telos said:
First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.

As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breaths.

Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.

i don understand wat u mean in the first step....
bout the baby steps??
can u give me some advice wats tat bout?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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harvard3 said:
i don understand wat u mean in the first step....
bout the baby steps??
can u give me some advice wats tat bout?
Is his name supposed to be ironic?
 

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I can say I have had this happen in the past with one. I am still good friends with this girl but she is just about engaged and well, im just out of a relationship. We talk about everything and though I kinda will always have feelings for her, I never will see her for anything more than a friend. She would be the only one that could change the friendship since its her with the LTR. He doesn't seem like the right one for her since he was her first BF, Relationship, etc, and they have absolutly nothing in common... Except they both like the outdoors.

Still I gave up a long time ago being anything past friends, but there is always a little sexual tension there since we both go salsa dancing on sundays when we both are free. Near the end of the night we are both hot, sweaty, and I know we both are a bit horny lol. Its always a good time.

Either way I don't think it is completely impossible to be friends with a woman and it truely is nice having one that I can talk to as a close friend.

We both are not the kinda people that make a lot of true friends. You only have a few true friends in live and both of use only have around 2 so its these friendships that you will try to cherish and keep for a long time. Why screw it up to get your chonies off?
 

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harvard3 said:
guys ....
i need more opinion...........
!!!
please
I think we need some more info here. Are you retarded? I think knowing this will help us give you advise Special Ed. If you are not technically retarded then what the hell is wrong with you. Also the name Harvard is that for the school you go to The N.C. Harvard School for the Janitorial Arts ("Where special people go for a special job")
 
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