"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WE used to be a close friend!!! but i(male) like her now!!! HOW?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
everywomanshero
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Have her stay the night and then ask her for a *******. That's probably what I would do.
DonGorgon
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Men and women can never be true friends... one or both end up wanting to F
This is something I only thought personally. This is always the case?DonGorgon said:Men and women can never be true friends... one or both end up wanting to F
Edit: Nm. Bro you post a LOT.
Young Anikan
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This happened to me before,3 summers ago.Anyways,You getting with her,not gonna happened.Your way beyond the friend zone,ya talk about everything so shes not gonna see you as bf material,you know too much.The best thing you can do is try to catch her when shes horny and try to fvck her.But as for a relationship,forget about it.And what Dongorgon and Sexual said is so true,Men and women cant ever truly be friends,its just a matter of time before one of you catch feelings.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WC2
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Leaving the friend zone is sometimes possible if you're not deep into the friends zone. From what you're saying, you tell this girl everything and she tells you everything. That means she tells you about her boy friends and you tell her about other women (usually).
You are too far beyond any romantic possibilities. You will hear some say friends before lovers, but this only works out in the shallowest of friendships.
There are 2 reasons why this won't work :
Guilt
And lack of sexual tension
A woman feels guilty with herself for risking a friendship, just for a fling. She would rather keep a friend who she can talk to about other guys she's ****ing.
The 2nd and strongest reason is lack of sexual tension. If you've been friends with a woman for a long time and have shared intimate secrets with her, you have not sparked any sexual tension. And even if you did change your ways the chances are she will not respond favorably. You are her close friend who she spends her emotions on and she wants to keep it that way. If you do a total 180 and start hinting at anything sexual, she's going to run in the other direction almost juts as fast.
Society raises us to think that great friends become great lovers, but really great friends only feel the emotional side of a relationship. The sexual, physical side is left empty. Not left empty physically, but emotionally. Even if you did **** this girl and give her the best sex of her life, something in her mind tells her that it's not as great as having someone whom she doesn't know as well ****ing her. In a sense you've already shown all your insecurities to her, and she's shown you hers. Insecurities are the biggest turn off to women in the sack.
You are too far beyond any romantic possibilities. You will hear some say friends before lovers, but this only works out in the shallowest of friendships.
There are 2 reasons why this won't work :
Guilt
And lack of sexual tension
A woman feels guilty with herself for risking a friendship, just for a fling. She would rather keep a friend who she can talk to about other guys she's ****ing.
The 2nd and strongest reason is lack of sexual tension. If you've been friends with a woman for a long time and have shared intimate secrets with her, you have not sparked any sexual tension. And even if you did change your ways the chances are she will not respond favorably. You are her close friend who she spends her emotions on and she wants to keep it that way. If you do a total 180 and start hinting at anything sexual, she's going to run in the other direction almost juts as fast.
Society raises us to think that great friends become great lovers, but really great friends only feel the emotional side of a relationship. The sexual, physical side is left empty. Not left empty physically, but emotionally. Even if you did **** this girl and give her the best sex of her life, something in her mind tells her that it's not as great as having someone whom she doesn't know as well ****ing her. In a sense you've already shown all your insecurities to her, and she's shown you hers. Insecurities are the biggest turn off to women in the sack.
First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.harvard3 said:Hmm...we used to be very close friend....we can tok bout everything.....
now i had find out tat i like her........but i just dunno wat to do?
we used to go out once a week but.....mostly....i call her out.....
As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breaths.
Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.
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Brandonc662
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Yeah, when I read this earlier today, I thought to myself wow the kid who won 5th place in the Special Olympics was able to stop eating his boogers for 30 seconds and register on this forum. I wonder how he actually registered did his mom help him.Telos said:First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.
As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breath.
Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.
Telos said:First, graduate to the intelligence level of a small land mammal.
As frustrating and unfair as it is, you actually have to be coherent to score with the ladies most of the time. Sometimes you can occasionally get away with a well timed series of deep, primal grunts... but I'm getting the feeling that with you that we should probably focus on baby steps. One thing at a time. Deep breaths.
Second. Stop calling her. The fact that you "tok bout everything" together has probably already destroyed any drop of attraction she has for you. She needs you to give her the gift of missing you. Stop your tok'n and get a hobby that doesn't involve her. Here is a pro tip: The more you call her, the more she's definitely NOT thinking about your thick man meat deep inside her.
i don understand wat u mean in the first step....
bout the baby steps??
can u give me some advice wats tat bout?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is his name supposed to be ironic?harvard3 said:i don understand wat u mean in the first step....
bout the baby steps??
can u give me some advice wats tat bout?
I can say I have had this happen in the past with one. I am still good friends with this girl but she is just about engaged and well, im just out of a relationship. We talk about everything and though I kinda will always have feelings for her, I never will see her for anything more than a friend. She would be the only one that could change the friendship since its her with the LTR. He doesn't seem like the right one for her since he was her first BF, Relationship, etc, and they have absolutly nothing in common... Except they both like the outdoors.
Still I gave up a long time ago being anything past friends, but there is always a little sexual tension there since we both go salsa dancing on sundays when we both are free. Near the end of the night we are both hot, sweaty, and I know we both are a bit horny lol. Its always a good time.
Either way I don't think it is completely impossible to be friends with a woman and it truely is nice having one that I can talk to as a close friend.
We both are not the kinda people that make a lot of true friends. You only have a few true friends in live and both of use only have around 2 so its these friendships that you will try to cherish and keep for a long time. Why screw it up to get your chonies off?
Still I gave up a long time ago being anything past friends, but there is always a little sexual tension there since we both go salsa dancing on sundays when we both are free. Near the end of the night we are both hot, sweaty, and I know we both are a bit horny lol. Its always a good time.
Either way I don't think it is completely impossible to be friends with a woman and it truely is nice having one that I can talk to as a close friend.
We both are not the kinda people that make a lot of true friends. You only have a few true friends in live and both of use only have around 2 so its these friendships that you will try to cherish and keep for a long time. Why screw it up to get your chonies off?
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I think we need some more info here. Are you retarded? I think knowing this will help us give you advise Special Ed. If you are not technically retarded then what the hell is wrong with you. Also the name Harvard is that for the school you go to The N.C. Harvard School for the Janitorial Arts ("Where special people go for a special job")harvard3 said:guys ....
i need more opinion...........
!!!
please