"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WE need to make an AFC Forum

Badmannaz

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we need to make a site for all guys who have problems and leave the general board for broad topics

The AFC forum is for all guys going through afcness...less face it every guy here is AFC that's why we came here...and yes it is possible for a DJ to go AFC...AFc can't just be rid of...it's more like a state of being :crazy:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Remulak

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How about a forum for questions like "I wear glasses can I still get girls?" or "She said she'd rather fyck roadkill than me do I have a chance?"
 

Tom Juan

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That doesn't sound like to bad of an idea, guys.
 

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If we didnt have loser posts then no one would have anything to talk about on this forum. A big part of this forum is about removing the veil of afcness from each others heads.
 

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Yea that doesn't make a whole lot of sense. That's like telling alcoholics to stop showing up to AA.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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IsiMan84

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AFCs are the reason the board exists. What good would it do if it were a bunch of DJ's talking to each other? Most of them would be out getting women or doing whatever makes them happy, so the board would just collect a bunch of spiderwebs.
 

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yep, this discussion board was meant as a means to help AFCs get over their AFC-ness or at least improve themselves with the advice from the true DJs on the board. i've been here for two years, but i must say, i gather something useful every time i log on. =D everyone's been an AFC at some point or other in their lives.
 

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everyone comes here as an AFC.. if u werent an AFC at first than u woulda been out crushing broads lol.. i first came back in like 01.. im here under a different name now.. actually left boards for about 2 years and just enjoying life now.. im back to help give advice and insight..

no need for an AFC forum.. just gotta be patient and help the weak get strong.. thats all there is to it
 

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IsiMan84 said:
AFCs are the reason the board exists. What good would it do if it were a bunch of DJ's talking to each other? Most of them would be out getting women or doing whatever makes them happy, so the board would just collect a bunch of spiderwebs.
Are you kidding me? Most of the so-called "DJs" hanging out on this board have post counts in the thousands or slightly less.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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usdaprime

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I am with you guys! Everybody was AFC when they first came here and some like me are still AFC. It seems to me there are more posts about guys saying "AFC this AFC that" That is makes my ass hurt. I quit coming here for a long time because I was sick of seeing somebody post something and then 2,222,345 guys answer with some useless bullsh1t about AFC this. Then you have the yound kids who think they are tuff guys and funny with things like "Dude you should shove a DVD player up your ass then ask her out." Funny how all the so called tough guys who act like that are never really tough like they potray
 

Man Of Adventure

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We will all have AFC tendencies...its just keeping them in check is what matters until they slowly disappear one by one.
 

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hmph,

there does seem to be an elitist streak amongst those who are doing well... but as others have said, seriously what would you guys do and talk about if it really were nothing but alphas?

CAGE MATCHES?

mutual ego stroke parties?

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however, i think it might be worth considering a forum for DAMAGED men. there are a lot of us (me inclusive - at least used to be the case) for whom the pua arts is kinda putting the cart before the horse.

there can be guys and problems dealing with MUCH more basic issues like DEPRESSION, SOCIAL ANXIETY, complete lack of socialization (ostracized, unsocialized geeks that grew up), etc.

they tend to ask questions and help about PRE dj stuff like their emotional/psychological/psychiatric issues and it might help to have a forum for them.

sure, we can just send them off to psych forums but it says something that they made their way here and perhaps the context under which they want to work out their issues....

just a thought.

delta
 
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