"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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we hook up. Girl later says she just wants to be friends

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because she's not ready for anything serious. You suggest keeping it light and fun, and she says LBF.

game over & move on?

background: me her in class and we decide to hang out one day. End up naked in my bed later that night. She gets change of heart when the alochol wears off.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This just in

Next

You got what you came for ... there'll be repeat performances even if you bounce out.
 

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Ever heard of the sweaty T-shirt study? It just may be that she got a whiff of your natural BO and it she knew then she wasn't going to have sex with you again.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Might be that she feels she gave in too easily and doesn't want to be a slvt. Action speaks louder then words. Let her keep talking about being friends, keep doing what you are doing and see what actually happens.

One of my female friends has lived with a guy for years, has had two children with him and still says they are just friends. She still gets angry if someone even suggests there might be more to the relationship.

Let her call it whatever she wants but you decide for yourself what it is by her actions.
 

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Same thing happened with me. Provided you are on good terms with her, if you keep it cool and don't press for anything, then you'll probably end up doing it again. The problem I've faced is that sometimes the girl feels so regretful that the only alternative she feels is to cut off all contact with you completely, especially if you continuously end up together in bed.
 

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Having kids and living together doesn't mean you can't be only friends.
 

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Originally posted by becker
Same thing happened with me. Provided you are on good terms with her, if you keep it cool and don't press for anything, then you'll probably end up doing it again. The problem I've faced is that sometimes the girl feels so regretful that the only alternative she feels is to cut off all contact with you completely, especially if you continuously end up together in bed.
It seems like I'm in your boat then... perhaps even worse. I IMed her online a few times since then and she's either slow to respond or doesn't at all.

What's the best move now? I'm guessing I should ignore her and let her come to me; If she doesn't, that's the end of that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Disconnect
Who said relationship? Be fvck buddies!
I have a feeling she intended to mean "I'm done with you now" than "lets be **** buddies" :(
 

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Congrats, you have been used for sex. Believe it or not girls can do this too.
 

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Originally posted by TheShadow
It seems like I'm in your boat then... perhaps even worse. I IMed her online a few times since then and she's either slow to respond or doesn't at all.

What's the best move now? I'm guessing I should ignore her and let her come to me; If she doesn't, that's the end of that.
I remember when we decided not to date anymore, I verbally told her that I was going to leave the "friends with benefits" route open, and she didn't immediately say no, rather she said she'll consider it, but she also thought it was wrong. That's the problem I faced.

She was totally held back by her morals, even though they were essentially shot the minute we hooked up after she explicitly told me it wasn't going to happen. Apparently this happened before with her and another guy, and she cut off all contact. Girls like this tend to be a little immature. They want to come off as good girls and to do this they have to resist temptation to do stuff like this. It's like a totaly inner turmoil going on.

Anyways, I haven't done the IM thing for a while, but I can only imagine how much easier you're making it for her to ignore you that way. You'll be more effective if you see each other. At the same time, you might as well keep her as a friend if you are on good terms with her and just go after other women.

The way I see it is that if you two have already done it, and you're on good terms, that's a recipe for a possible repeat performance in the future, since the cat has already been let out of the bag, so to speak.
 
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