"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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we hook up. Girl later says she just wants to be friends

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because she's not ready for anything serious. You suggest keeping it light and fun, and she says LBF.

game over & move on?

background: me her in class and we decide to hang out one day. End up naked in my bed later that night. She gets change of heart when the alochol wears off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This just in

Next

You got what you came for ... there'll be repeat performances even if you bounce out.
 

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Ever heard of the sweaty T-shirt study? It just may be that she got a whiff of your natural BO and it she knew then she wasn't going to have sex with you again.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Might be that she feels she gave in too easily and doesn't want to be a slvt. Action speaks louder then words. Let her keep talking about being friends, keep doing what you are doing and see what actually happens.

One of my female friends has lived with a guy for years, has had two children with him and still says they are just friends. She still gets angry if someone even suggests there might be more to the relationship.

Let her call it whatever she wants but you decide for yourself what it is by her actions.
 

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Same thing happened with me. Provided you are on good terms with her, if you keep it cool and don't press for anything, then you'll probably end up doing it again. The problem I've faced is that sometimes the girl feels so regretful that the only alternative she feels is to cut off all contact with you completely, especially if you continuously end up together in bed.
 

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Having kids and living together doesn't mean you can't be only friends.
 

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Originally posted by becker
Same thing happened with me. Provided you are on good terms with her, if you keep it cool and don't press for anything, then you'll probably end up doing it again. The problem I've faced is that sometimes the girl feels so regretful that the only alternative she feels is to cut off all contact with you completely, especially if you continuously end up together in bed.
It seems like I'm in your boat then... perhaps even worse. I IMed her online a few times since then and she's either slow to respond or doesn't at all.

What's the best move now? I'm guessing I should ignore her and let her come to me; If she doesn't, that's the end of that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Disconnect
Who said relationship? Be fvck buddies!
I have a feeling she intended to mean "I'm done with you now" than "lets be **** buddies" :(
 

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Congrats, you have been used for sex. Believe it or not girls can do this too.
 

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Originally posted by TheShadow
It seems like I'm in your boat then... perhaps even worse. I IMed her online a few times since then and she's either slow to respond or doesn't at all.

What's the best move now? I'm guessing I should ignore her and let her come to me; If she doesn't, that's the end of that.
I remember when we decided not to date anymore, I verbally told her that I was going to leave the "friends with benefits" route open, and she didn't immediately say no, rather she said she'll consider it, but she also thought it was wrong. That's the problem I faced.

She was totally held back by her morals, even though they were essentially shot the minute we hooked up after she explicitly told me it wasn't going to happen. Apparently this happened before with her and another guy, and she cut off all contact. Girls like this tend to be a little immature. They want to come off as good girls and to do this they have to resist temptation to do stuff like this. It's like a totaly inner turmoil going on.

Anyways, I haven't done the IM thing for a while, but I can only imagine how much easier you're making it for her to ignore you that way. You'll be more effective if you see each other. At the same time, you might as well keep her as a friend if you are on good terms with her and just go after other women.

The way I see it is that if you two have already done it, and you're on good terms, that's a recipe for a possible repeat performance in the future, since the cat has already been let out of the bag, so to speak.
 
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