"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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We can't be friends!!

Seeker911

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Both of us started working together and I started liking her and told her once but she said that she looked at me as a friend. After that she started getting really close and started planning doing **** together and I thought that may be she is changing her mind. But I've had enough now told here that we can't be friends, and don't ever try to contact me again, also delted her from the Facebook (I deleted her once from FB and she added me back after sometime.. seems like she lacks some self respect). She hasn't so far and I'm not even waiting for it. I'm more happy.
One thing that is bothering me is that if I interpreted the thing wrong or should I have gone to that extent of telling her not to contact me again.

What you guys think?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bmp2cpm

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I think if you had other women that were interested in you and you were interested in them that you would have never made this post.

Is this sosuave or enotalone????

Plates=options=not caring too much about one particular woman

Also put career first. Good career will attract more than one woman. A woman at work can hurt your career more than you can possibly imagine.
 

VladPatton

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You shouldn't of burned that bridge. Forget what she says, you could of still tried sporadically to bang her every so often.
 

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NEVER sh1t where you eat!!!!! Sexual harassment will f*ck up your day, month, year or LIFE.... Depending on how fem centric the area you are working in is....
 

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We no longer work together it's been a year. Since then I have never initiated any contact. She has been the one taking me to dinners, movies and texting on her expense.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Seeker911

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To correct not her expense, sometimes it's her and sometimes it's me but I never initiated any converstion.
 

latinnova

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Umm... you could have just stopped contacting her or just made it seem like you were really busy. Let her go her own way, you go your own way. She might have contacted you later down the road out of the blue. I have had that happen. I say just part amicably, who knows what will happen later on down the road?
 

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I tried doing that too but then I would get the random texts from her and the blocked calls. I ignored a few time but she was persistent, also tried to hack into my facebook account.(she told me that)
 
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