"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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We Band of Brothers

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As I spend more time in the Mature Man section of SS as I recover from a recent health scare, I’ve noticed the sense of community and oneness in our searches for meanings to our existence. As men we are under attack from all sides and our banding together has been a refreshing break from the Matrix that attempts to devour us on a daily basis. I’ve noticed some dissention in recent threads and hope that it will stop. We are all here for the same reason (hopefully) – to grow as men. We are all at different levels with different concerns and in a sense it is up to us to enlighten our gender to the traps that are laid before us. We are a Band of Brothers. Cheers!



From this day to the ending of the world,
But we in it shall be remembered-
We few, we happy few, we band of brothers;
For he to-day that sheds his blood with me
Shall be my brother; be he ne'er so vile,
This day shall gentle his condition;


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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You know that you're speaking my language, Romangod.

But that doesn't come as a surprise to you though, does it???

I agree your sentiments wholeheartedly. :yes:
 

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There's a lingering resentment amongst the men in the MM forum. Where it comes from, I have no idea but my duty as a ranking officer of the V.U. ARMY and a proud proponent of men everywhere is to locate the source of this dissent and hostility and put a bullet square in it's eye.

We're a Band of Brothers, for sure, and it's our responsiblity to keep each other from falling.
 

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Victory Unlimited said:
You know that you're speaking my language, Romangod.

But that doesn't come as a surprise to you though, does it???

I agree your sentiments wholeheartedly. :yes:
No surprise, VU. Cheers! :up:
 

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KarmaSutra said:
There's a lingering resentment amongst the men in the MM forum. Where it comes from, I have no idea but my duty as a ranking officer of the V.U. ARMY and a proud proponent of men everywhere is to locate the source of this dissent and hostility and put a bullet square in it's eye.

We're a Band of Brothers, for sure, and it's our responsiblity to keep each other from falling.

You're right on the money, KarmaSutra. It is our responsibility to stick together and help each other from falling down and possibly ruining our lives. There should be no resentment to each other. Courteous discourse or disagreement with respect to each other's concerns should be a priority.

Many come here from all corners of the world seeking answers. Yes, we are a Band of Brothers. :up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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KarmaSutra said:
There's a lingering resentment amongst the men in the MM forum. Where it comes from, I have no idea but my duty as a ranking officer of the V.U. ARMY and a proud proponent of men everywhere is to locate the source of this dissent and hostility and put a bullet square in it's eye.

We're a Band of Brothers, for sure, and it's our responsiblity to keep each other from falling.

What resentment? That's not resentment, that's just the one's who haven't gotten laid in awhile. We all just need to hang out with a few gallons of beer and a room full of hotties. That would be fun as hell!
 

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Brotherhood is a good term. Women have Feminism, and Sisterhood. Masculinism is okay by me too.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
What resentment? That's not resentment, that's just the one's who haven't gotten laid in awhile. We all just need to hang out with a few gallons of beer and a room full of hotties. That would be fun as hell!

......................... or perhaps ones that have gotten laid and are left with an empty feeling and are searching for deeper truths. In my opinion, the troubles that men are experiencing are personified by their relationships with women but that is not the root cause of their unhappiness and unease. Many use it as a bad drug to temporarily ease their pain while paradoxically increasing it to the point of misery. If a few gallons of beer and a room full of hot women is the answer then we're probably asking the wrong question. Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
......................... or perhaps ones that have gotten laid and are left with an empty feeling and are searching for deeper truths. In my opinion, the troubles that men are experiencing are personified by their relationships with women but that is not the root cause of their unhappiness and unease. Many use it as a bad drug to temporarily ease their pain while paradoxically increasing it to the point of misery. If a few gallons of beer and a room full of hot women is the answer then we're probably asking the wrong question. Cheers!

True, let's all meet up at a pub in Amsterdam, and we'll see the truth! But seriously, you just described me in your post.
 

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True, let's all meet up at a pub in Amsterdam, and we'll see the truth! But seriously, you just described me in your post.

:p I'd love to go to Amsterdam again! I've been there twice and had the times of my life. Stumbling through the main town at 5:00 in the morning after a night at the coffee shop with a hot Danish woman tourist on my arm is truly unforgetable. Cheers!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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romangod said:
:p I'd love to go to Amsterdam again! I've been there twice and had the times of my life. Stumbling through the main town at 5:00 in the morning after a night at the coffee shop with a hot Danish woman tourist on my arm is truly unforgettable. Cheers!

Yeah, that's where I need to be right now.
 
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