jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
I was young, 13, 14, 15 years old, and I was the leader.
I wasn’t an oppressor or someone who forced things on others. I was the one who created opportunities and made things happen, because most of the people in my circle were "sleepyheads" or simply not initiators.
So I was the one saying, "Hey guys, tonight let’s go to Gigi’s for some pizza," and whoever wanted to come would join in. Same with trips, outings, and a bunch of other experiences.
When I hit 20, I started feeling like it was time to give others space, expecting them to step up too. But the truth is, they just weren’t the kind of people who take initiative. Once they got into relationships, they mostly just did things as couples and, naturally, stopped “listening” to you, because to them, a single guy is just... odd.
I tried to keep that same energy into my 20s, but it got harder and harder for that exact reason, until I got into a relationship myself. And then boom: I became a reference point again.
Now that I'm getting older, I see the same thing happening. If you're not married or don’t have kids, no one calls you anymore. Everything revolves around kids now, and parents seem to have lost their own identity.
So what I’m getting at is this: it doesn’t matter whether you’re a leader or not, or how much effort you put in.
If you don’t have the “surface-level” stuff, a nice house, a woman, kids, a decent car, good clothes, a positive vibe, then you’re basically invisible. That’s 99% of what you need in life just to not suffer.
In life, you'll meet 99% of people who judge you based solely on those surface-level things. But you'll also form deep connections with the remaining 1%, the ones who see your true value.
But do you know how you reach that 1%? By going through the 100%.
Meaning: it’s always and only through the superficial first impression that people evaluate you.
I know a lot of people who have zero inner game but have the “exterior package”, and they’re still right in the mix, even if they’re terrible people.
And I also know people who have deep inner game but no external package. They’re socially sidelined, even though they have a ton of value.
Now imagine a mature man who has solid inner game and has his external package together.
That man is unstoppable. A social machine
With that said, I’d love to hear your life experiences related to all this.
ps: exterior package is just a term refering to what you need in order to stay at pace with society. So it change from country to country, and from age to age range.
I wasn’t an oppressor or someone who forced things on others. I was the one who created opportunities and made things happen, because most of the people in my circle were "sleepyheads" or simply not initiators.
So I was the one saying, "Hey guys, tonight let’s go to Gigi’s for some pizza," and whoever wanted to come would join in. Same with trips, outings, and a bunch of other experiences.
When I hit 20, I started feeling like it was time to give others space, expecting them to step up too. But the truth is, they just weren’t the kind of people who take initiative. Once they got into relationships, they mostly just did things as couples and, naturally, stopped “listening” to you, because to them, a single guy is just... odd.
I tried to keep that same energy into my 20s, but it got harder and harder for that exact reason, until I got into a relationship myself. And then boom: I became a reference point again.
Now that I'm getting older, I see the same thing happening. If you're not married or don’t have kids, no one calls you anymore. Everything revolves around kids now, and parents seem to have lost their own identity.
So what I’m getting at is this: it doesn’t matter whether you’re a leader or not, or how much effort you put in.
If you don’t have the “surface-level” stuff, a nice house, a woman, kids, a decent car, good clothes, a positive vibe, then you’re basically invisible. That’s 99% of what you need in life just to not suffer.
In life, you'll meet 99% of people who judge you based solely on those surface-level things. But you'll also form deep connections with the remaining 1%, the ones who see your true value.
But do you know how you reach that 1%? By going through the 100%.
Meaning: it’s always and only through the superficial first impression that people evaluate you.
I know a lot of people who have zero inner game but have the “exterior package”, and they’re still right in the mix, even if they’re terrible people.
And I also know people who have deep inner game but no external package. They’re socially sidelined, even though they have a ton of value.
Now imagine a mature man who has solid inner game and has his external package together.
That man is unstoppable. A social machine
With that said, I’d love to hear your life experiences related to all this.
ps: exterior package is just a term refering to what you need in order to stay at pace with society. So it change from country to country, and from age to age range.
