"we are doing it for the kids"

[jhonny9546]

We often hear this phrase from couples.
That might also be you in the past.

What makes people use it to justify their decision of being togheter or keeping a broken relationship?
How do women use that quote(what that really means)?
Also, what can this say about that person saying this?

 

[Travel memoir21]

We often hear this phrase from couples.
That might also be you in the past.

What makes people use it to justify their decision of being togheter or keeping a broken relationship?
How do women use that quote(what that really means)?
Also, what can this say about that person saying this?

A lot of it is also cultural, if you're Asian, you could just be staying 'together' for the sake of keeping a good reputation in line. But yes, that's generally one of the main reason couples tend to stick together, for the sake of the children.

 

[jhonny9546]

My understanding of "we're together for the kids" is that they're both fulfilling needs they can't meet alone, and very often, one of the needs that remains unmet is connection/sex.

Another thing I heard recently, but this one is rarer, was hearing a friend of my cousin at a party say how her friend, who's been with her boyfriend for eight years and has a child, "doesn't want to get married."

As soon as I heard those words, I thought for a moment and replayed the sentence in my head
"She doesn't want to marry HIM..."

She hasn't found the "right" one. She would have gotten married otherwise.

Everyone at the table had interpreted that sentence as "sincere," and so they all fell for what women say, and it seems that at a table of eight men, I was the only one who understood it.

Women get married and how, with whom they say, while if they don't, they are just using you to get there.