Clearly not afraid to walk away now
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ways to show a girl you're not afraid to walk away
- Thread starter ebracer05
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Do it for fun, like "hide and seek'... Just don't tell her, and see if she tracks you down. Go camping/fishing with your buddies or something.
There are no tangible ways to demonstrate nothing. This reminds me of when I was 22 and I called the girl I was chasing and said "I don't want to see you anymore" and she said "You called ME!". Don't tell her you don't want to see her anymore. Just don't see her anymore.
Telling her is bad because either:
A) You end up seeing her again so you don't seem genuine and become the boy who cried wolf.
B) You don't see her but there is no mystery because you told her what you were going to do.
You only want to be with women who like you enough to either initiate, or eagerly reply even months later if you write to them. So just don't do anything, and if she doesn't initiate it's over.
Telling her is bad because either:
A) You end up seeing her again so you don't seem genuine and become the boy who cried wolf.
B) You don't see her but there is no mystery because you told her what you were going to do.
You only want to be with women who like you enough to either initiate, or eagerly reply even months later if you write to them. So just don't do anything, and if she doesn't initiate it's over.
Bingo-Player
Master Don Juan
before you can show her anything
you must first make sure that YOUR not afraid to walk away........
you must first make sure that YOUR not afraid to walk away........
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Date more than one woman.
But, if you are a relationship guy... just don't be too accommodating. Don't be a d!ck on purpose, but don't just go along with everything she wants to do. If she wants to do something that you just don;t want to do, tell her no.
But it is give and take, if she is doing things you like, but she hates well... you have to give in once and a while, just don't be one of those pathetic "Yes, dear" wimps.
Another thing, keep in shape and always look good, if you grow a pot belly and make no effort towards yourself, she'll get the idea that you aren't going anywhere and she would be right. If you look like you could get another women with the snap of your fingers she'll assume you will walk if she's not the best she can be.
But, if you are a relationship guy... just don't be too accommodating. Don't be a d!ck on purpose, but don't just go along with everything she wants to do. If she wants to do something that you just don;t want to do, tell her no.
But it is give and take, if she is doing things you like, but she hates well... you have to give in once and a while, just don't be one of those pathetic "Yes, dear" wimps.
Another thing, keep in shape and always look good, if you grow a pot belly and make no effort towards yourself, she'll get the idea that you aren't going anywhere and she would be right. If you look like you could get another women with the snap of your fingers she'll assume you will walk if she's not the best she can be.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I treat every text response I send as if I'm walking away and not looking back. You speak your mind and let the chips fall.
A couple weeks ago a recent plate gave me excuses why she couldn't make plans ("I'm exhausted and swamped at work"). My response, "I know the feeling. Check your calendar and let me know when you're free, because it would be great to see you." Pleasant, straightforward, direct. I walked away. It took her almost two weeks but she got in touch because I didn't, and if I didn't say anything, she realized that she'd never hear from me again and I was okay with that.
We had a date set up within 2 hours of her getting in touch. And this time her schedule was clear.
A couple weeks ago a recent plate gave me excuses why she couldn't make plans ("I'm exhausted and swamped at work"). My response, "I know the feeling. Check your calendar and let me know when you're free, because it would be great to see you." Pleasant, straightforward, direct. I walked away. It took her almost two weeks but she got in touch because I didn't, and if I didn't say anything, she realized that she'd never hear from me again and I was okay with that.
We had a date set up within 2 hours of her getting in touch. And this time her schedule was clear.
JJRocker
Don Juan
Brother I feel for ya!
Let me guess there is something about her that resonates with you.
There have been some great comments here!
Maybe I can offer a different point of view.
They are ALL trouble each and every one of them!
Some are worth it, some arent!
Remember your the man! Don't ever wait around for her to call or text! You have a life and it's a great one! If she picks up on this she will gravitate to you!
Once the line is crossed into what you consider unacceptable, you need to have boundaries, then that is as they say that.
Don't ever compromise your principals for a woman!
If you think she is worth it, say "it used to be cute how you would do ... but lately it's getting old"
Remember brother do not EVER compromise your principals for a woman
Let me guess there is something about her that resonates with you.
There have been some great comments here!
Maybe I can offer a different point of view.
They are ALL trouble each and every one of them!
Some are worth it, some arent!
Remember your the man! Don't ever wait around for her to call or text! You have a life and it's a great one! If she picks up on this she will gravitate to you!
Once the line is crossed into what you consider unacceptable, you need to have boundaries, then that is as they say that.
Don't ever compromise your principals for a woman!
If you think she is worth it, say "it used to be cute how you would do ... but lately it's getting old"
Remember brother do not EVER compromise your principals for a woman