"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ways to show a girl you're not afraid to walk away

ebracer05

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The title pretty much says it all

What are some tangible things you can do or say that will demonstrate to a girl you're not afraid to walk away, particularly if she's giving you crap?

Preemptively dumping her?
Telling her outright she's walking on thin ice with you?

Do you go direct, or do you be more subtle?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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1. Ignoring all texts/calls and not returning them in a timely manor.

2. If she suggests a time to hang out or dinner or something you decline with "I'm Busy."
with out a counter-offer.
 

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tell her straight up i don't appreciate her bullshi t and IF she keeps it up she can go fu ck herself. And, yes, I've said all of that, word for word, before.
 

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konmai said:
Just walk away. Talk is cheap.
Exactly!

If she's kicking up drama or disrespecting you, then you simply say nothing. But the title of this thread implies that you can't actually do it and you just want to bluff.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good topic.

Looking forward to more input.

I agree, believe it and live by it. Ignoring and being aloof makes good as well.

Have your dealbreakers. When the elicit behavior you deem unacceptable, WALK simple as that. If the give a sh!t about you they will come crawling back, if not, a problem is solved and you cut a loss that wasn't needed anyway.
 

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There's a difference between the purpose of demonstrate your willingness to walk away (maintaining the frame that you're busy, a challenge, non-needy and picky) and actually walking away (she's crossed the line and you're done with her).
So demonstrating that ability, aside from actually doing it, is important. Some interesting suggestions in here.
 

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I would instantly just tell her we are "done" and walk away or hang up the phone. Heck I have even texted this before to someone yea I know that's pretty low but it worked. The next day I would be with someone else and I wouldn't pay her a single glance if I saw her again haha.

All of the previously said issues are great as well like ignoring texts, phone calls and even deleting her from my Facebook page would give her the hint as well if she was seriously disrespecting me as well.

This is very difficult to do but if you put a lot trust in your decision it will be worth it in the end. The hardest part is making the girl actually believe all of this isn't a ruse....
 

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Yea and let's not forget the old facebook delete! Petty, stupid, and means nothing to us DJs but oh do the ladies take it seriously!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ebracer05 said:
The title pretty much says it all

What are some tangible things you can do or say that will demonstrate to a girl you're not afraid to walk away, particularly if she's giving you crap?

Preemptively dumping her?
Telling her outright she's walking on thin ice with you?

Do you go direct, or do you be more subtle?
The answer is in the title: walk away.

Think about it. If you ever get into a situation with a woman (especially early on) where she's "testing" you or being such a straight up b*tch where you have to contemplate walking away, why would you stop yourself and think "hmmm... how can I show her I'm not afraid to walk away?"

What situation, exactly, would warrant this display of force, but not warrant you actually walking away?

I can't think of a single one.

So... walk away.
 

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Text her "Fvck off."

If she likes you she will reply at least 3 times.
 

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ebracer05 said:
The title pretty much says it all

What are some tangible things you can do or say that will demonstrate to a girl you're not afraid to walk away, particularly if she's giving you crap?

Preemptively dumping her?
Telling her outright she's walking on thin ice with you?

Do you go direct, or do you be more subtle?
You 'show' her by disappearing. No texts, replies, emails, calls or seeing her. Simple.
 

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The title pretty much says it all

What are some tangible things you can do or say that will demonstrate to a girl you're not afraid to walk away, particularly if she's giving you crap?

Preemptively dumping her?
Telling her outright she's walking on thin ice with you?

Do you go direct, or do you be more subtle?
Just simply back off. Be indifferent, and if you want to hang out, make it on your terms, not hers.. If she is not displaying affection and romance, be direct and tell her your needs are not being met, and cut her loose.
 

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I would instantly just tell her we are "done" and walk away or hang up the phone. Heck I have even texted this before to someone yea I know that's pretty low but it worked. The next day I would be with someone else and I wouldn't pay her a single glance if I saw her again haha.

All of the previously said issues are great as well like ignoring texts, phone calls and even deleting her from my Facebook page would give her the hint as well if she was seriously disrespecting me as well.

This is very difficult to do but if you put a lot trust in your decision it will be worth it in the end. The hardest part is making the girl actually believe all of this isn't a ruse....
Why do you think it's low to break it off with someone through text? Honestly I think it's one of the best ways. Most women will call that cowardice.. You know why? Because they can't confront you, cause an argument, and try to get their 2 cents in. Face to face break ups are for women to get piece of mind. If I'm a guy and I'm not feeling it or never want to see you again, I'm not going to take time out of my busy day to track you down, say it's over, and watch waterworks for 30 minutes
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You don't need to show her sh!t. Just know that you WILL walk away if you need to. Simple.
Exactly. When you feel like showing anything to another, you are elevating that person above you, by placing significance in how they view you. You "show" only contrivances that advance your aim, not to win others' approval.
 

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Laugh at her stupid **** and show her where the door is. If she doesn't like the way you do things she can fvck off.
An example: I spend a lot of time working and not much keeping my house spotless. One of the girls I am seeing made a comment. I told her that I wasn't making her stay and she could leave any time she wanted. I also said if she couldn't handle she didn't need to come back either.

She stayed, and there were no more comments.

When you make it clear that you are not invested and that you can walk away any time you want (because you can), there will be less crap to deal with.
 

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Dude, when you walk away you go NC.

By walking away you are telling her that it's over for good.

There's a good reason why you did so in the first place.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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