"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ways to get over that "special one"

Bronxtal112

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iight fellas, don't even lie. I know there has been someone in your life in the present, a month ago, 5 years ago etc... That you just couldn't get over. Always thought about her, always compared yourself and other women to her and unfortunately, never pursued other women because of her. I know I have been there before with a women that I was never even serious with. BUT, you don't have to suffer (if you wanna call it that) or better yet you don't have to drive yourself crazy. Here are some tips I have found helpful.

1. Remember a disappointment is a blessing.

2. Go out. Not even anywhere special just get out of the house. Definitely don't sit in the house and listen to Keith sweat's "there you go telling me no again"

3. Do your own thing. if your in school, study even harder, nothing beats the feeling of studying for a test and then doing great in it.

4. take up a hobby if you already don't have one: jog, work out, play sports...

And the most important tip of all.....

5. The fact is, is that for every girl you think is perfect, there is someone 100X better..... So go out and find someone else ( I know this is asking for a lot but hey, that's what this sites for.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mrax

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Thanks for the tips. I'm doing most of these things already, but seeing a reminder never hurts.

I hope to see more replies on this thread, because I need 'em right about now. I just got played SO bad it hurts to even think about it.
 

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Well its been a little over 5 months for me and it is getting better everyday. Although if I meet a girl and she digs me, for some reason I find a reason to blow her off. I guess I am not completely over it. Well today I had a relaps. It was tuff, but I know it wasnt meant to be. Things happen for a reason.

But women definatly get ur mind off the one. Go out and meet/date as many women as u can. It is definatly a way to get over a girl.

Like my mom told me. There will never be someone like your first love, but it doesnt mean there will be someone better. soooooooooooooooooooo true.
 

jakeyboy

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nice tips.. done most of that already.. but its still nice to know that there are people like me out there sharing the same sentiments. but it gets kind of tough when you go to places you used to go with your ex and you remember the cool times you guys have shared and thats when it starts to hurt. GAH.
 

MRomeo99

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NLP and reframing are really good for this as well. Five minutes of work a day using NLP for a month, and you'd be done forever.

Check out "Using your Brain for a change" by Bandler.

HTH,

M
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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