"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ways to be Spontaneous

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One of the BEST ways to increase interest levels when in a LTR is to be spontaneous! Break out of the usual cycle of things and keep her guessing.

So post YOUR favorite ways to keep her on her toes and lovin every minute of the relationship.

-Show up to her house unannounced, take her for a walk or to a sweet sushi resturaunt
-While in public (but no one is looking), touch her in a sexual way (grab her boob, ass, etc.) and look at her in a "seducing" way. Then keep walking/talking like nothing happened. This also helps build sexual tension and work her up for later

Lets hear em!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Isn't using the ideas that you solicit defeating the purpose of being spontaneous?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Isn't using the ideas that you solicit defeating the purpose of being spontaneous?
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Ok let me rephrase: "Ways to SEEM spontaneous".

Not in a phony way, but rather just keep the relationship interesting

Sheesh.
 
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So you're saying that you don't want to think up anything yourself but you don't want to be phony, you just want to SEEM phony... er "spontaneous." :rolleyes:
 
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Oh the irony of this thread.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think the thread is a good idea. The point is, whether you thought it up on the spot or not makes no difference, it's THE GIRL that is going to think it's spontaneous, that's all that's important. If you get a good tip, it's not like you're going to tell her you saw it on sosuave.net, you're just going to play it off like you made it up on the spot, duh.
 
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I think Supremo is on the right track. It's articulating succinctly the idea he is trying to convey where his error weighs.

Supremo, instead of feigning spontaneity I think it's best to attack from the point of view of the wanted man.

Let me explain: If you're too busy to sit by the phone and wait for it to ring to hear her voice you're exciting. You must give her mind room to drift and think of the possibilities of what you can do both to and for her. This is the essence of an interesting, mature person. being unexplainable and fresh provides her mind with all sorts of different scenarios and exchanges.
 
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speakeasy said:
I think the thread is a good idea. The point is, whether you thought it up on the spot or not makes no difference, it's THE GIRL that is going to think it's spontaneous, that's all that's important. If you get a good tip, it's not like you're going to tell her you saw it on sosuave.net, you're just going to play it off like you made it up on the spot, duh.
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SOMEONE understands what I'm trying to do.

KarmaSutra said:
Let me explain: If you're too busy to sit by the phone and wait for it to ring to hear her voice you're exciting. You must give her mind room to drift and think of the possibilities of what you can do both to and for her. This is the essence of an interesting, mature person. being unexplainable and fresh provides her mind with all sorts of different scenarios and exchanges.
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So, you're saying basically not to talk to her all the time and give her "the chance to miss you"...?

Guys, this wasn't meant as a thread to help ME it was meant to be along the lines of where people post their favorite openers or smoothest moves.

Give one, take one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe you could practice your spontaniety as well.

Like those guys who walk around in front of mirrors; with invisible footballs under each arm, with no swing, and chest ridiculously puffed, working on their 'alphaness'
 
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One of my favorite lines derives from one of the funniest movies "Dumb and Dumber".

Randomly,I say something along the lines of "I desperately want to make love to a schoolboy right now" or can ask them "Have you ever made love to a schoolboy?".Field tested and it gets some laughs.

Also if its me and a friend and we are with some girls,I give him the cue and we start singing "If you wanna be my lover,you gotta get with my friends,making love forever,friendship never eeeeends" or any pop song.Its very random yes but it can spice up any boring situation
 
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