Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ways to be Spontaneous

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One of the BEST ways to increase interest levels when in a LTR is to be spontaneous! Break out of the usual cycle of things and keep her guessing.

So post YOUR favorite ways to keep her on her toes and lovin every minute of the relationship.

-Show up to her house unannounced, take her for a walk or to a sweet sushi resturaunt
-While in public (but no one is looking), touch her in a sexual way (grab her boob, ass, etc.) and look at her in a "seducing" way. Then keep walking/talking like nothing happened. This also helps build sexual tension and work her up for later

Lets hear em!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Isn't using the ideas that you solicit defeating the purpose of being spontaneous?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Isn't using the ideas that you solicit defeating the purpose of being spontaneous?
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Ok let me rephrase: "Ways to SEEM spontaneous".

Not in a phony way, but rather just keep the relationship interesting

Sheesh.
 
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So you're saying that you don't want to think up anything yourself but you don't want to be phony, you just want to SEEM phony... er "spontaneous." :rolleyes:
 
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Oh the irony of this thread.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think the thread is a good idea. The point is, whether you thought it up on the spot or not makes no difference, it's THE GIRL that is going to think it's spontaneous, that's all that's important. If you get a good tip, it's not like you're going to tell her you saw it on sosuave.net, you're just going to play it off like you made it up on the spot, duh.
 
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I think Supremo is on the right track. It's articulating succinctly the idea he is trying to convey where his error weighs.

Supremo, instead of feigning spontaneity I think it's best to attack from the point of view of the wanted man.

Let me explain: If you're too busy to sit by the phone and wait for it to ring to hear her voice you're exciting. You must give her mind room to drift and think of the possibilities of what you can do both to and for her. This is the essence of an interesting, mature person. being unexplainable and fresh provides her mind with all sorts of different scenarios and exchanges.
 
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speakeasy said:
I think the thread is a good idea. The point is, whether you thought it up on the spot or not makes no difference, it's THE GIRL that is going to think it's spontaneous, that's all that's important. If you get a good tip, it's not like you're going to tell her you saw it on sosuave.net, you're just going to play it off like you made it up on the spot, duh.
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SOMEONE understands what I'm trying to do.

KarmaSutra said:
Let me explain: If you're too busy to sit by the phone and wait for it to ring to hear her voice you're exciting. You must give her mind room to drift and think of the possibilities of what you can do both to and for her. This is the essence of an interesting, mature person. being unexplainable and fresh provides her mind with all sorts of different scenarios and exchanges.
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So, you're saying basically not to talk to her all the time and give her "the chance to miss you"...?

Guys, this wasn't meant as a thread to help ME it was meant to be along the lines of where people post their favorite openers or smoothest moves.

Give one, take one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe you could practice your spontaniety as well.

Like those guys who walk around in front of mirrors; with invisible footballs under each arm, with no swing, and chest ridiculously puffed, working on their 'alphaness'
 
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One of my favorite lines derives from one of the funniest movies "Dumb and Dumber".

Randomly,I say something along the lines of "I desperately want to make love to a schoolboy right now" or can ask them "Have you ever made love to a schoolboy?".Field tested and it gets some laughs.

Also if its me and a friend and we are with some girls,I give him the cue and we start singing "If you wanna be my lover,you gotta get with my friends,making love forever,friendship never eeeeends" or any pop song.Its very random yes but it can spice up any boring situation
 
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