She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would but their is no other girls in my class.Originally posted by whyshy
Get her jealous by talking to other, uglier girls. So she knows she is better than them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I do that. I can't do "Keep Away" because of that. She iniates convo's and does all that stuff all period. Then on Thursday she sat 1 seat away but then said "She didn't like the smell of black people" so from now on she sits next to me. I keep her laughing the whole period. I was reading her myspace I think on saturday and one of the comments she left was I want this guy at work so I'll quit after I get him. So I'm obviously not on her mind after school so I need to find a way for her to think about me after school. I plan on asking her out on Thursday.Originally posted by DJ4Real
You can try to give her a little attention. Also, be sure to stand out by saying things that are funny so that you'll stand out over the other guys.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's a good way to get her greed to shine out. Wait until she has you and we'll see how much longer she wants to keep you.Originally posted by The Master Disaster
Its a good way to get the girl.
Anytime you do something to "stand out," it's basically class clown behavior. Yes, they're different, but there is a very fine line. I can't think of a single instance where someone did it for any reason other than to get attention... but then again, why am I arguing? lol, if it gets attention, I guess it helps with women. Be a clown if you must.Originally posted by DJ4Real
It's not a matter of "entertaining the class for her" or "being a class clown". It's to stand out a little bit more than the other guys....if you'd read...she is like the only girl in his class. There is a difference in being able to make witty and intelligent remarks, and being a "class clown" they are different.
Bad straegy my friend.Originally posted by DJ4Real
I would prefer women who are just as good looking or better than her so she'll think "what have they got that I don't got"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
:crackup: :crackup:!Originally posted by whyshy
you look for what's inside of a girl and not just the outer beauty.