BackInTheGame78
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Listening to some Bobby Rio stuff and its really great in terms of outlining mistakes guys make in interactions with women and how you erode your own value and status and also ways to stop doing it.
He talks about approval seeking and how there no way to ever be considered a high value man when displaying this type of behavior.
Avoid the following:
1) Changing your opinion based on their reaction. This should be self explanatory. They react negatively and then you change your opinion to fit theirs.
2) Explaining why you like something if they have a negative reaction because it demonstrates internally that you believe their opinion is more valuable than yours and you have to justify why you think the way you do about it.
3) Making sure they agree with something before you do it...ie, you are thinking about buying something and ask their opinion then decide to not do something based on it. It's OK to ask someone's opinion but not have that be the basis for whether you do something or not.
I think these are little things that are very easy to do during the course of a conversation if you are not careful. I know I have done a lot of these things. Just need to be more aware of how these subtle things can erode your value quickly in her eyes.
To be fair a lot of the stuff he says is not groundbreaking and a lot is covered by some others in posts here, but the way he explains and demonstrates what to do and not do is very very helpful. It makes it very easy to take and implement these things quickly.
He talks about approval seeking and how there no way to ever be considered a high value man when displaying this type of behavior.
Avoid the following:
1) Changing your opinion based on their reaction. This should be self explanatory. They react negatively and then you change your opinion to fit theirs.
2) Explaining why you like something if they have a negative reaction because it demonstrates internally that you believe their opinion is more valuable than yours and you have to justify why you think the way you do about it.
3) Making sure they agree with something before you do it...ie, you are thinking about buying something and ask their opinion then decide to not do something based on it. It's OK to ask someone's opinion but not have that be the basis for whether you do something or not.
I think these are little things that are very easy to do during the course of a conversation if you are not careful. I know I have done a lot of these things. Just need to be more aware of how these subtle things can erode your value quickly in her eyes.
To be fair a lot of the stuff he says is not groundbreaking and a lot is covered by some others in posts here, but the way he explains and demonstrates what to do and not do is very very helpful. It makes it very easy to take and implement these things quickly.
