iqqi
Master Don Juan
wise words from charlie chan.
what.
what.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"Way to find resistant rabbit is to turn rabbit lose, and watch."
- Thread starter iqqi
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Paid Laid & Made
Senior Don Juan
IQQI,
Please refrain from making stupid incoherent posts like this. I am starting to lose respect for you. Plus where is that **** you promised me?
Please refrain from making stupid incoherent posts like this. I am starting to lose respect for you. Plus where is that **** you promised me?
Ganji
Well, focusing on the title, it is a tip... Same as "Ganji Games," (damn, I have read the sight way too much) "The Tao of Steve," and all the other scarcity strategies. If the woman isn't playing the way you want her to, put her on the back burner, do your own thing, and wait for her to return to you.
Well, focusing on the title, it is a tip... Same as "Ganji Games," (damn, I have read the sight way too much) "The Tao of Steve," and all the other scarcity strategies. If the woman isn't playing the way you want her to, put her on the back burner, do your own thing, and wait for her to return to you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
the key is observation of the prey
gosh, i can't believe you cats aren't getting it!!!
i'll give you some hints.
chase, chase, chase. learn nothing.
sit back and observe. learn everything.
gosh, i can't believe you cats aren't getting it!!!
i'll give you some hints.
chase, chase, chase. learn nothing.
sit back and observe. learn everything.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
actually, gonzalo, i was gone for about a week. booyah!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
you again!
why do you keep saying this, out of context?
it is funny.
bust.it
Don Juan
Re: the key is observation of the prey
you've got it backwards.
chase, chase, chase, try, fail, learn, succeed, take the girl home-->learn everything.
sit back and observe... stand on the sidelines and watch some other guy take her home, cry, go home, wack off-->learn nothing.
you've got it backwards.
chase, chase, chase, try, fail, learn, succeed, take the girl home-->learn everything.
sit back and observe... stand on the sidelines and watch some other guy take her home, cry, go home, wack off-->learn nothing.
bust.it
Don Juan
Interesting, PHAT. I see your point, yet I still think it is flawed.
There is nothing random about sitting back and observing.
Sit on the bench too much, and you won't have anything to NEXT in the first place. What's the difference between observing her in the field and sitting at your computer at home? Not much.
I think you're advocating a non-needy approach free of desperation, while my "interpretation" stresses field experience over pondering techniques at home.
I'd much rather be playing the game.
Hmm, maybe this will satisfy:
observe, chase, backoff, be chased, observe, chase, go in for the kill--> win.
There is nothing random about sitting back and observing.
Sit on the bench too much, and you won't have anything to NEXT in the first place. What's the difference between observing her in the field and sitting at your computer at home? Not much.
I think you're advocating a non-needy approach free of desperation, while my "interpretation" stresses field experience over pondering techniques at home.
I'd much rather be playing the game.
Hmm, maybe this will satisfy:
observe, chase, backoff, be chased, observe, chase, go in for the kill--> win.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Superman X
Banned
I agree. Sitting back and observing is called being a cautious little girl and not going for it. This quote is exactly wrong.
-Dan
PHAT your missing something. You are not supposed to chase one girl. You are actually chasing a number of them. This way you are trying and learning but you are also unavailable because your chasing the other girls.
I agree that this is a pointless "TIP". Thanks for repeating what others have said, except they said it better.
I agree that this is a pointless "TIP". Thanks for repeating what others have said, except they said it better.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Most of those all about LTR's...are very depressed people. This is a bad analogy for dating anyways. You can never take a subject as complicated as relationships and give a one line answer to it. Why do you think there exists a DJ bible? Because there are so many different answers and keys that have helped men become better at the game.
Iqqi, when was the last time you were a man??? Oh never, so stop it with your "i've got the answer posts." You need to learn some humility. Maybe it would keep you from inviting two guys your interested in, to the SAME PARTY.
PHAT, the reason you are chasing several girls is so you can eliminate them. Try her, see who she is. Try her, see what she does. Try her, get rejected. Try her, say something dumb. Try her, already in a relationship. etc. etc. etc. As you keep chasing you weed out the numbers until you find the one you feel is your best fit. And you try. If you fail, you get up and go back to chasing.
The best thing is you find out more about yourself and grow stronger through the entire ordeal.
Iqqi, when was the last time you were a man??? Oh never, so stop it with your "i've got the answer posts." You need to learn some humility. Maybe it would keep you from inviting two guys your interested in, to the SAME PARTY.
PHAT, the reason you are chasing several girls is so you can eliminate them. Try her, see who she is. Try her, see what she does. Try her, get rejected. Try her, say something dumb. Try her, already in a relationship. etc. etc. etc. As you keep chasing you weed out the numbers until you find the one you feel is your best fit. And you try. If you fail, you get up and go back to chasing.
The best thing is you find out more about yourself and grow stronger through the entire ordeal.
It's a screening process basically. Comes back to an old quote (author forgotten):
"If you love something set it free, if it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was"
You may chase the ladies all you want and get shot down but where do you go from there?
Ever heard of the portuguese proverb? Beware of silent dogs and still waters.
Sit back and observe my man, it is the only way to do it. Your goal is to go out and have fun. That is all.
Pook: "You will attract more women when you don't care wether you are attracting women"
Some times you gotta back off and live your own life and that is when these chicks will realise that they really want you.
"If you love something set it free, if it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was"
You may chase the ladies all you want and get shot down but where do you go from there?
Ever heard of the portuguese proverb? Beware of silent dogs and still waters.
Sit back and observe my man, it is the only way to do it. Your goal is to go out and have fun. That is all.
Pook: "You will attract more women when you don't care wether you are attracting women"
Some times you gotta back off and live your own life and that is when these chicks will realise that they really want you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.