"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Way to be a MAN

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About four years ago, I worked a year (during my gap year out) in construction. I was a rooftiler. This is in England, so we're talking lots of very old roofs and restoration work (as well as new building developments).

I think working construction is a great way to be a better man. I've spent my summers (when I'm back at home) doing this for the last four years since that gap year experience. Without mentioning the gains you'll make in muscle and strength (especially if you're labouring for a craftsman or something), the testosterone and manliness displayed in this profession is huge and will increase your's by osmosis. The commaradarie is amazing if you can find a great group of guys to work with.

There's nothing like being on top of a roof with the sun on your back, hammer in hand, looking out across that bird's eye view of the city, with that toughness in your eyes that can only come from paying your dues on a building site.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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so your saying that that makes u a man?

uh...
i'm not gonna go there
 

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yep said:
so your saying that that makes u a man?

uh...
i'm not gonna go there
No, but it's certainly a useful PART. Or, at least, a useful device to add to your toolbox (pun intended).

Try it sometime.
 

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tripleplay said:
No, but it's certainly a useful PART. Or, at least, a useful device to add to your toolbox (pun intended).

Try it sometime.
Naw, I'd rather get drunk and yell at some little league coach to make me feel like a man.

:)

Eh, there are some points to what you're saying Triple, I suppose, but for those of you who can't read between the lines, roofing isn't the issue as much as the parts of life and you that MAKE UP the enjoyment of roofing work.

It's more of "working with your hands" getting away from women and "admiring the scenery" kind of thing; I'd agree with that part of it.

Of course, you can easily be a secure man by doing plenty of other things.
 

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I'm taking your point but I think it's worded a bit funny. Being a roof tiler will not make you a man. The things you mentioned (physical aspect, comeraderie, etc) can all be had on other jobs too. I think perhaps your point was to mention that these are admired by women. Point taken.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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^^^ Exactly....

and the fact that he mentions Way to be man...
 

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I think he's mostly right. This should maybe be in Tips.

Of course, all the testosterone in the world won't do a whole lot for you if your mind is still enslaved to the Matrix. But yeah, I can imagine this advice might be useful.
 

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I worked as a framer, then a carpenter, during my summer's off from undergrad. I can certainly understand and appreciate the feeling of standing back and looking at something that you built with your hands. It gave me the confidence to do fabrication on my motorcycles and also allowed me to explore my creative side in my own time with my tools at home.

The secondary benefit of this was that women see that a) your a hard worker, b) you're handy, c) you're creative, and d) you're in shape. Without realizing it, I became a guy that women were attracted to by virtue of the things that I LIKED to do. Word up.
 

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IMO being a man is more of your mind in great shape than your body. BUT to build physical strength and have fun with the guys i can see this.

I just got the impression that u were saying to do this JUST to pick up chicks. My bad.
 

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enjoy your broke back mountain moment... just becareful, and watch ur ass before it gets ****ed by some dude..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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