"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Way to be a MAN

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About four years ago, I worked a year (during my gap year out) in construction. I was a rooftiler. This is in England, so we're talking lots of very old roofs and restoration work (as well as new building developments).

I think working construction is a great way to be a better man. I've spent my summers (when I'm back at home) doing this for the last four years since that gap year experience. Without mentioning the gains you'll make in muscle and strength (especially if you're labouring for a craftsman or something), the testosterone and manliness displayed in this profession is huge and will increase your's by osmosis. The commaradarie is amazing if you can find a great group of guys to work with.

There's nothing like being on top of a roof with the sun on your back, hammer in hand, looking out across that bird's eye view of the city, with that toughness in your eyes that can only come from paying your dues on a building site.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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so your saying that that makes u a man?

uh...
i'm not gonna go there
 

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yep said:
so your saying that that makes u a man?

uh...
i'm not gonna go there
No, but it's certainly a useful PART. Or, at least, a useful device to add to your toolbox (pun intended).

Try it sometime.
 

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tripleplay said:
No, but it's certainly a useful PART. Or, at least, a useful device to add to your toolbox (pun intended).

Try it sometime.
Naw, I'd rather get drunk and yell at some little league coach to make me feel like a man.

:)

Eh, there are some points to what you're saying Triple, I suppose, but for those of you who can't read between the lines, roofing isn't the issue as much as the parts of life and you that MAKE UP the enjoyment of roofing work.

It's more of "working with your hands" getting away from women and "admiring the scenery" kind of thing; I'd agree with that part of it.

Of course, you can easily be a secure man by doing plenty of other things.
 

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I'm taking your point but I think it's worded a bit funny. Being a roof tiler will not make you a man. The things you mentioned (physical aspect, comeraderie, etc) can all be had on other jobs too. I think perhaps your point was to mention that these are admired by women. Point taken.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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^^^ Exactly....

and the fact that he mentions Way to be man...
 

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I think he's mostly right. This should maybe be in Tips.

Of course, all the testosterone in the world won't do a whole lot for you if your mind is still enslaved to the Matrix. But yeah, I can imagine this advice might be useful.
 

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I worked as a framer, then a carpenter, during my summer's off from undergrad. I can certainly understand and appreciate the feeling of standing back and looking at something that you built with your hands. It gave me the confidence to do fabrication on my motorcycles and also allowed me to explore my creative side in my own time with my tools at home.

The secondary benefit of this was that women see that a) your a hard worker, b) you're handy, c) you're creative, and d) you're in shape. Without realizing it, I became a guy that women were attracted to by virtue of the things that I LIKED to do. Word up.
 

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IMO being a man is more of your mind in great shape than your body. BUT to build physical strength and have fun with the guys i can see this.

I just got the impression that u were saying to do this JUST to pick up chicks. My bad.
 

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enjoy your broke back mountain moment... just becareful, and watch ur ass before it gets ****ed by some dude..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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