"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Was this wuss like, or smart?

sharpshooter

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ok. This morning at the gym I noticed I was getting heavily eyed by this chick while she was on the stairmaster. This chick had an older woman who was nearby and I quickly noticed it was her mother. Now my gym only has a men's locker room, so it's rare to see women at this gym. Anyawys, I didn't pay her any attention because I was busy with my routine. About 10 minutes later I see her in another area giving me the eye, then quickly looking away when i'd see her. So I figured ok, some type of IL maybe. Again, I was too focused on my own stuff to pay her any more attention.

When I was done with that excercise, I went to the machine area of the gym where her and her mother were (so I could use a pec machine, not to chase after her). As soon as I walked into that area, she quickly left. I figured she was probably embarssed that she was with her mom and didn't want me to know. So I continued with my own stuff like normal. A couple of sets in..and she's walking by, giving me the eye and waving her hair. After moving around a bit more (after I'd switch to another machine she would switch to machines where I could see her), it was pretty obvious that she wanted my attention!

The most obvious one was the last one, I was on the calf machine and all of a sudden she hops onto the lower back extension which was DIRECTLY infront of me (like 8 feet away). She had on the shortest shorts, and her legs and ass were so damn tempting while she was on that. It was clear why she was there, if she didn't get my attention before, she had it now! At this point I was smiling, thinking damn, this girl wants in my pants. When she got off of that, she sorta brushed her hair towards me and gave a quick glance, sort of like saying (i bet you want me now).

The entire time I wanted to approach, but there was one thing holding me back...HER MOTHER. I'm just not comfortable to go up to a random chick with her mother in the area watching her. Just doesn't give you that freedom to be yourself fully.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't let the mom thing worry you.

My experience has been that moms love it when you go talk to their daughter!!!

If you see this chick again and she is with her mom go talk to both of them. Make sure and include her mom in some of the conversation.
 

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k, and another note

the chances of there being no il are pretty slim right? i mean, how could all that have just been a coincedence
 

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"Do you come to the gym with your mom just so guys'll say, 'Wow, she'll look THAT good when she's older?'" (in earshot of her mom...instant brownie points, plus it opens convo)

Actually that might be cheesy, but I think it'd work to break the ice. Anyway, it could go either way with her mom there...but only one real way to find out.

I've bowed out because of parents present before. Most of the time I wish I hadn't. BUt just wait until you see her next time. If she's not with her mom, you're out of excuses. If she IS, then go ANYWAY. :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
k, and another note

the chances of there being no il are pretty slim right? i mean, how could all that have just been a coincedence
SHUT UP!

There is a 100% chance you talk to her or you don't. Boys go up to girls and talk to them everyday at gyms all over the world. This is not a big deal. Just go do it.
 

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yeah you missed a chance. you shoulda just ignored the mom, or waited for a moment alone

also it shows confidence to do it with her mom there. and hell, maybe it was her sister or something. i dont know how old u are
 

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Hehehehe... why didn't you "DJ" her momma too? :D

Kidding

It's no problem really. I "closed" a girl once in the same situation, with her momma about 4 feet away. It's no biggie.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I've bowed out because of parents present before.
I was dancing with a girl at a party and she jumped up and put her legs around my waist and at that exact moment her drunken father came home. I've never run so fast in my llife :D
 
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