"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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was this text too commanding?

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So I was flirting with a girl in a late night biology class yesterday and she showed a ton of ioi from smiling, laughing, touching, "accidental" bumping, calling me mean. i got her phone number and after class i texted "study with me on mondau"

was i too commanding because she still hasn't texted back, its been a day...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Giacobe.KB said:
So I was flirting with a girl in a late night biology class yesterday and she showed a ton of ioi from smiling, laughing, touching, "accidental" bumping, calling me mean. i got her phone number and after class i texted "study with me on mondau"

was i too commanding because she still hasn't texted back, its been a day...
That's it? That's all you said? No,that wasn't too demanding. In fact,in my opinion,it was pretty perfect. You're trippin' out over not having heard from her in a day? Man,you need to get out more. Go somewhere and do something. Play a sport,hang with some friends,just do something other than sitting by the phone waiting for her to call. And the worst thing you could do would be to try to contact her too soon. Give it a couple days. Maybe call her on Sunday. If you keep trying to contact her too often,she'll get the impression that you don't have a life,and that she's the only girl in your life right now. Even if that's true,you don't want her to know it. She'll lose any attraction she may have for you,and you'll accidentally pump up her pride.

She'll may still try to keep in contact with you from time to time,but it won't be because she likes YOU,it'll be because she likes the MALE ATTENTION.
But because she still call or text you every now and then,you'll misinterpet itand think she likes you when she doesn't.

I think you're ok,just keep yourself occupied doing something instead of thinking about her.
 

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ya this text was the only thing i have said so far and it is exactly as it is written. i just think its kind of rude because there was no question mark, no "would u like to" or any of that. it was a straight up command and pretty rude. i just hope i dint sound like a complete jack ass.

btw i am trying to fill my schedule up. i have boxing at night today so ill vent out my frustration on the heavy bag ^^
 

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No its good man. You shouldn't have to worry about asking. Making a statement like "Study with me on Monday." is saying this what I am doing. I don't care if you join me or not. Whereas asking a question is implying that you will choose your actions based on her response.

I would have added some c0cky funny humor to the text though like. "I'm studying on Monday, come over and I'll help you get an A." (or something along those lines)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hehehehe I don't know I managed for the first 40 years of my life without txt - Doh

Want to really impress her - send a hand written letter in the mail - she will read it over and over again, unlike a txt which will hit the phone's trash bin in a millisecond....

She probably gets loads of txts a week from guys like you, but how many letters does she get?

Nice paper, and good hand writing does wonders... try it..
 

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lol i just met this girl sending her a letter is borderline stalkerish lol "WHO THE FHHH GAVE HIM MY ADDRESS?!" hahhaha if a girl sent me one of those i would probably run for my life too man
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
Texting is just awesome, isn't it? :down:
i hate it. with a passion. unfortunately that's how 99% of people my age communicate nowadays.
 

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sigh guys, its been a whole day and she hasnt replied. what went wrong...
 
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