k theres this girl in one of my classes, and her and one of her friends go on the topic of hair and crap. well she has naturaly strait hair but sometime she like puts crap in it to make it wavvy which i personaly think looks kinda cheap and dumb and i told her that i like it better when its staight, cause she was talkin about all the diff. stuff she does with it. Now was i out of line or was she just over reacting when she was like wow that was mean. i just played it cool and acted like she was just freakin out about nothing.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Was this out of line
- Thread starter frisco
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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what should/could have happened
Me: I like it better straight.
Her: Wow, that's kind of mean.
Me: It's not mean. It's truthful. Or should I lie to you and tell you it looks beautiful, when in reality I could surf all the waves in your hair.
Her: OMG! ... you know what?!...
Me: *interupt Her before she spews negative comments* ... Truthfully, you're hairs not bad, but you might look hot with it straight. Try it, and if you dont give even one guy a boner, then I guess I was wrong. *Smile*
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Depending on how edgy your usual conversations are... this might defintelly not fit you... but I tend to talk like this on a day to day basis.
Me: I like it better straight.
Her: Wow, that's kind of mean.
Me: It's not mean. It's truthful. Or should I lie to you and tell you it looks beautiful, when in reality I could surf all the waves in your hair.
Her: OMG! ... you know what?!...
Me: *interupt Her before she spews negative comments* ... Truthfully, you're hairs not bad, but you might look hot with it straight. Try it, and if you dont give even one guy a boner, then I guess I was wrong. *Smile*
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Depending on how edgy your usual conversations are... this might defintelly not fit you... but I tend to talk like this on a day to day basis.
OR
You could try this.
Not caring. Just think to yourself and imagine how much life they're wasting by wondering if their hair looks good every minute.
Personally, once you hear a chick blab on about something that she thinks is bad which it is oviously not, then I start laughing inside. Then I start paying her out about that certain 'insecurity' in a sarcastic way.
You could try this.
Not caring. Just think to yourself and imagine how much life they're wasting by wondering if their hair looks good every minute.
Personally, once you hear a chick blab on about something that she thinks is bad which it is oviously not, then I start laughing inside. Then I start paying her out about that certain 'insecurity' in a sarcastic way.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
Yes! A mock sarcastic, whiny voice about your own hair being out of place, or one of my favourites : 'Oh no! I broke a nail!' or 'I haven't got my makeup on and its awful!' say something like that in a whiny voice with a grin, gets a laugh every time, works as a neg about their complaints, and best of all shuts tem up about their appearance. At least for a few minutes anyway... <_<
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Aznkid1030
Don Juan
I wouldn't pay attention to stuff like that unless they'd ask me