k theres this girl in one of my classes, and her and one of her friends go on the topic of hair and crap. well she has naturaly strait hair but sometime she like puts crap in it to make it wavvy which i personaly think looks kinda cheap and dumb and i told her that i like it better when its staight, cause she was talkin about all the diff. stuff she does with it. Now was i out of line or was she just over reacting when she was like wow that was mean. i just played it cool and acted like she was just freakin out about nothing.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Was this out of line
- Thread starter frisco
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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what should/could have happened
Me: I like it better straight.
Her: Wow, that's kind of mean.
Me: It's not mean. It's truthful. Or should I lie to you and tell you it looks beautiful, when in reality I could surf all the waves in your hair.
Her: OMG! ... you know what?!...
Me: *interupt Her before she spews negative comments* ... Truthfully, you're hairs not bad, but you might look hot with it straight. Try it, and if you dont give even one guy a boner, then I guess I was wrong. *Smile*
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Depending on how edgy your usual conversations are... this might defintelly not fit you... but I tend to talk like this on a day to day basis.
Me: I like it better straight.
Her: Wow, that's kind of mean.
Me: It's not mean. It's truthful. Or should I lie to you and tell you it looks beautiful, when in reality I could surf all the waves in your hair.
Her: OMG! ... you know what?!...
Me: *interupt Her before she spews negative comments* ... Truthfully, you're hairs not bad, but you might look hot with it straight. Try it, and if you dont give even one guy a boner, then I guess I was wrong. *Smile*
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Depending on how edgy your usual conversations are... this might defintelly not fit you... but I tend to talk like this on a day to day basis.
OR
You could try this.
Not caring. Just think to yourself and imagine how much life they're wasting by wondering if their hair looks good every minute.
Personally, once you hear a chick blab on about something that she thinks is bad which it is oviously not, then I start laughing inside. Then I start paying her out about that certain 'insecurity' in a sarcastic way.
You could try this.
Not caring. Just think to yourself and imagine how much life they're wasting by wondering if their hair looks good every minute.
Personally, once you hear a chick blab on about something that she thinks is bad which it is oviously not, then I start laughing inside. Then I start paying her out about that certain 'insecurity' in a sarcastic way.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
Yes! A mock sarcastic, whiny voice about your own hair being out of place, or one of my favourites : 'Oh no! I broke a nail!' or 'I haven't got my makeup on and its awful!' say something like that in a whiny voice with a grin, gets a laugh every time, works as a neg about their complaints, and best of all shuts tem up about their appearance. At least for a few minutes anyway... <_<
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Aznkid1030
Don Juan
I wouldn't pay attention to stuff like that unless they'd ask me