"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Was this beta bait or **** test?

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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day". After some light texting back and forth, I ask her
" are you gonna come over and amuse me later this week?"
Her response was "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
My response was " it takes a special kinda girl to amuse me".
Probably not the best thing I could have said...what would have been a better response?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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btownbuck2012

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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day". After some light texting back and forth, I ask her
" are you gonna come over and amuse me later this week?"
Her response was "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
My response was " it takes a special kinda girl to amuse me".
Probably not the best thing I could have said...what would have been a better response?
You shot your self in the foot trying to act too smooth and it had the opposite effect. All you had to do was literally say “doing good, thanks! Looking forward to seeing you again, when are you free?”
 

kzar_kzar

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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day". After some light texting back and forth, I ask her
" are you gonna come over and amuse me later this week?"
Her response was "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
My response was " it takes a special kinda girl to amuse me".
Probably not the best thing I could have said...what would have been a better response?
I did something similar before and got no response as well as being blocked too lol.. you are lucky at least she replied back to you in disgust hahah..
Guess we need not to be too arrogant argh..
 

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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day".
No response.

Next day you text day “Hi, there is a good movie on Netflix on Saturday. I’ll order some pizza and drinks. Are you able to come over and watch with me?
 
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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day". After some light texting back and forth, I ask her
" are you gonna come over and amuse me later this week?"
Her response was "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
My response was " it takes a special kinda girl to amuse me".
Probably not the best thing I could have said...what would have been a better response?
This comes from having a PUA mindset. If a woman is thinking of you, that’s a good thing.
You want her thinking of you. Inspire that.
She just said she wants to see you again. That’s what that means.
“Yeah I was thinking a little of you this morning too. I was thinking about how inspiringly devious you are.”
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lol
 

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I did something similar before and got no response as well as being blocked too lol.. you are lucky at least she replied back to you in disgust hahah..
Guess we need not to be too arrogant argh..
It can be used after she's within ur frame and not before lol
 

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This comes from having a PUA mindset. If a woman is thinking of you, that’s a good thing.
You want her thinking of you. Inspire that.
She just said she wants to see you again. That’s what that means.
“Yeah I was thinking a little of you this morning too. I was thinking about how inspiringly devious you are.”
That's a good one.
 

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Yeah, that's not a great line. It sounds like it wasn't congruent with your other interactions. I've said it a lot but texting really should be short and to the point. So much context is lost. Your response was also terrible.

Next time, just put the "playa" personality on the back burner. Most women won't react to it well, trust me.

As for a response to : "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
I would have committed and gone c0cky/funny. "No, I need someone to do the dishes, laundry and raise the kids too." And hoped she just wrote it all off as humor gone amiss via text. Hard to come back from that one though!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The_411

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Went on one date with a chick. 2 days after the date she sends me a text that says " thinking of you, hope you're having a good day". After some light texting back and forth, I ask her
" are you gonna come over and amuse me later this week?"
Her response was "Amuse you??? is that the purpose I serve in your life? Good too know."
My response was " it takes a special kinda girl to amuse me".
Probably not the best thing I could have said...what would have been a better response?
K.I.S.S.

Keep it simple stupid is the axiom to live by for texting.

Your life works in person if you are on a date and flirting with kino.

Over text it comes off too try hard.

The key is to use text to set up dates.
 
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