"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Was this being a prick or trying too hard to not be nice?

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This chick at uni walked by me while I was sitting (we are in a few classes together but barely talk, nor am I interested). She dropped her phone right in front of my feet and looked at me and asked if I could pick it up for her. I didn't respond and another girl behind her picked it up for her and as she walked away she called out "snob".

What do you guys think? Is it me or her? I'd probably rate her a 6 or 7.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tight game. Maybe you'll spot her walking in the parking lot as your pulling out and you can floor it towards her.

j/k. Maybe ignoring her was a little bit uncalled for. Why didn't you bust her balls just a bit and go for the number?

Having said that there's a DJ Bible tip advocating being an azzhole for a day once every so often which I often put into practice.
 
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It depends.

If her arms were full with books and it would have been difficult for her to pick it up herself, then you'd have been a prick.
If she was just standing there with her hands on her hips waiting for you to be her manservant, then she'd have been the prick.
 
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Think she had 2 small books in her arms (not heavy at all could've handled both with one arm). She was also standing right next to it as well. I don't understand haha. Don't want her number, I'm not interested at all. I do have her on Facebook though.
 
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Here's an incoherent answer but try to follow it.

You shouldn't have ignored the phone if you were closer to it. That was you being a prick.

She shouldn't have expected you to get the phone. That was her being a b!tch.

Being nice means doing things for acceptance not because they are the appropriate things to do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just about the same distance, with the difference of me sitting and her standing. I mean I believe people should earn respect, not demand it.
 
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IAMAREALBOY said:
I mean I believe people should earn respect, not demand it.
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I totally agree with that. If it was me there is no way I'd ever be courteous to her again. I'd probably step on her hand the next time.

Common courtesy earns you respect in most situations though. It's the times it doesn't that we remember but start focusing on what it does get you from the right kind of people.
 
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