"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Was this a Dj thing to say or just plain dumb?

TT2CiN

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Ok so I'm in a car with these two chicks that I don't know very well, and with my friend. They know my friend a bit more than me, but I know that they both like me and attracted to me (through another friend), and the convo starts. They are talking with me and my friend a little bit, and he's teasing them or whatever and they say they are gonna throw him out of the car, and then he goes well you can't leave tt2cin alone and they say.

girl - I don't think ttcin would mind being left alone in a car with two beautiful girls.

me - well... I've got to get to know you two better.

and they laugh, and the convo continues kinda thing, but I'm wondering was it dumb for me to say what I said, and shoulda have said something more like "ya I don't think I would mind that' - like my mind was thinking when they asked that "yea that would be great', but I was thinking maybe that was too afc or something and you kinda have to not put everything out. The thing is from what I heard these girls are sexually attracted to me so maybe that was dumb? Kinda along the same lines I taked to one of the girls briefly on the phone before and when I asked her where she was she said mall, I said what are you buying and she said "lingerie in vic secret", so I said "yea... well what do you need that for"? <---- was I wrong for saying that or is that one of those things where tone is what matters.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't think the first line was bad but when she said she was in victoria secret buying panties and you said "what for?" you blew it! I would have said "what time are you coming by to try them on for me?"

What did she say when you asked her "what are the panties for?"
 

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That was fine...
 
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