"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Was this a Dj thing to say or just plain dumb?

TT2CiN

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Ok so I'm in a car with these two chicks that I don't know very well, and with my friend. They know my friend a bit more than me, but I know that they both like me and attracted to me (through another friend), and the convo starts. They are talking with me and my friend a little bit, and he's teasing them or whatever and they say they are gonna throw him out of the car, and then he goes well you can't leave tt2cin alone and they say.

girl - I don't think ttcin would mind being left alone in a car with two beautiful girls.

me - well... I've got to get to know you two better.

and they laugh, and the convo continues kinda thing, but I'm wondering was it dumb for me to say what I said, and shoulda have said something more like "ya I don't think I would mind that' - like my mind was thinking when they asked that "yea that would be great', but I was thinking maybe that was too afc or something and you kinda have to not put everything out. The thing is from what I heard these girls are sexually attracted to me so maybe that was dumb? Kinda along the same lines I taked to one of the girls briefly on the phone before and when I asked her where she was she said mall, I said what are you buying and she said "lingerie in vic secret", so I said "yea... well what do you need that for"? <---- was I wrong for saying that or is that one of those things where tone is what matters.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't think the first line was bad but when she said she was in victoria secret buying panties and you said "what for?" you blew it! I would have said "what time are you coming by to try them on for me?"

What did she say when you asked her "what are the panties for?"
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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That was fine...
 
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